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joesbigship

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
 

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
There is a lot of good advice on this forum. Some sifting through some silliness is always going to be required on ANY public forum on the internet. But to insinuate everything here is "entertainment" is short-sighted IMO. This place has been a great help to me on a variety of levels since I joined almost four years ago.

The key is to be open to what people are saying and not let your own bias or pride get in the way. If you do that, you will find that a lot of what others say here can be beneficial to you in life and women-seeking. Some posters, of course, are much better sources of good information than others.
 

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There needs to be a private, invite only sub forum for verified players only. There are way too many semi-incel and MGTOW posters here who spew garbage like "I am the prize!", "never co-habitate!", "The wall!" :eek: and other "redpill" bullchit.
 

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There needs to be a private, invite only sub forum for verified players only. There are way too many semi-incel and MGTOW posters here who spew garbage like "I am the prize!", "never co-habitate!", "The wall!" :eek: and other "redpill" bullchit.
There really does need to be.
 

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
Perhaps we need more members that don’t play games and think this Forum is for entertainment purposes only.
Such as men that ask for needed help to improve their lives and quality experienced men that want to help them learn how to .…
 

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
I admire a lot of guys here. Most helped me a lot with great arguments and advices since I joined this forum.

But as some said, anywhere you go you will find good and bad people. We just have to lear how to filter it.
 

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
Sounds like that is how you perceive it and worse use it. I suggest you and whoever feels that way to simply leave.

I, personally, try my best (even though I do not claim to be always right and can certainly accept that I can be wrong and am constantly learning from others here) to make an impact, however significant or insignificant that is, of the members here and men part of the manosphere as a whole. As a matter of fact, more than being inspiring I want to be inspired.

None of us should be here with the goal to be entertained. You have Netflix, the media, and certainly the news for that. This is a community and should feel like a community. I've learned in my short lifetime that sometimes, not always, something you say something that can inspire and positively impact someone else's life. Sometimes that impact can trigger a butterfly wing or domino effect.

Again, if that is how you or others feel, I suggest you leave. You might be, ironically, the problem and reason why some men are weak.


Modern Man Advice
 

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There needs to be a private, invite only sub forum for verified players only. There are way too many semi-incel and MGTOW posters here who spew garbage like "I am the prize!", "never co-habitate!", "The wall!" :eek: and other "redpill" bullchit.
Instead we should figure out the best way to get an 18 year old to fall head over heels in “love” with us. Such as paying for an overpriced apartment and asking her to move in.

/sarcasm/

Sorry brother. Couldn’t resist. Lol
 

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I feel like I've been reading redpill and PUA advice for so long that before I even ask a question or make a thread most times I know what the answer is and what everyone will say.

There's also definitely times where even if I were to make a thread I know that I wouldn't want to hear anything other than what I already think/know/want to do.

I do read this forum partially for entertainment because I do enjoy the wild tales and crazy situations but there's also lots of good advice and people in need of help or input that I like to imagine we make a difference for.

I also think it's usually easy to tell good advice from bad and fake stories from real. Good advice will resonate with you and clarifies mysteries + reflect patterns already observed in your life. Bad advice and fake stories are generally going to sound like a huge departure from reality when you compare it to real experiences.

There can be good advice that is alien to your life experiences, but that advice is usually for situations that have yet to apply to you.
 

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The longer you enjoy the forum, the more you will find posters who contribute great ideas, advice and experiences. We all have our strengths and weaknesses and it's good to get information and constructive views on the areas of weakness that we need to improve on. That's the beauty of Sosuave.
My strength is directness, playfulness, getting women on a date or just plain getting them back to my house. I can seduce attractive women without even saying much through that directness,, playfulness and body language. 90% of this stuff is mental and psychological along with making good decisions on who you invest time into and who you walk away from (screening).
Sometimes my text game is strong and sometimes it's mediocre. But it's improved a lot over the years. I'm MUCH better face to face.
There is no "one size fits all" on any of this stuff because all posters have different personalities and what works for me might be a landmine when someone else tries it because the delivery will be different. There is however a model to follow to keep our behavior in check because at the end of the day, women are women although each situation is different.
To say that members on here do not interact in real life is BS. I know several members and one in particular I have enjoyed many long conversations with over the past month @BeExcellent .She understands the game.....or better yet, she understands men/women interaction and relationships.
At the end of the day you have to focus on bettering yourself, your approach and 1000 other things to improve with the opposite sex. Experience of trial and error to find what fits you and your personality is the only way to be successful. Learn from your failures and continue applying what does work and build on it.
Be careful who you take advice from as you wouldn't take financial advice from a hobo. One poorly implemented recommendation from a poster that is clueless may cost you a good opportunity with a woman that has value and potential.

Learn to tailor the things that work for other qualified posters to your own personality. That's the best advice I can offer. Each situation is different so you must be witty and adapt. At the end of the day humans are humans and there is consistency in all human behavior. The answer to most things can be found between those 2 statements.

EX: the biggest problem I see on this forum is no gray area. It's do this or do that......cut and dry. I find myself only struggling when I get off script in what works for me. Strong frame, ability to switch gears and seduce (which could be a totally different thread), being direct while also be chill and fun. But I find my best experiences when I follow my own script but also adjust to somewhere in the gray area as I adjust my script to the situation. And they are all different with every woman. Stop being robots and be men.

Happy Hunting.
 

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But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?
You don't have to meet people and see their photos for the advice to be legit. All that matters is if the advice connects and resonates with you.

It depends on what your goal is here. Is it to have as much sex as possible? Is it to commit legally to one woman forever? Is it to do both? Is it to have children? Everything is a situation.

I've said it before and it's no fault of Sosuave, but the only problem with all the applicable advice is by the time it registers with a member, the hot young fertile girl is already pregnant by the genetically blessed or the naturals. Not that men should do anything specifically for girls, but once they do all the stuff to become "great", the girl waiting for them has been ridden hard and put away wet.

That's life.
 

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We all get this is an entertainment board, it's not a source of actual, legitimate advice (or at least we should be aware of this). Even when people do "ask" for advice they typically have their minds made up, post a couple likes for people who confirm their initial bias or decision, and that's that.

For me, and probably for almost all of us, the discussions are simply for fun, a nice diversion to take a few breaks here and there throughout the week.

But is there any actual valid advice that's even possible even if we were to take the forum seriously? After all, we don't have photos, have never met these people, and have no basis for judging whether the posts are pure fantasy or legit?

Even with photos, it's easy to edit, shoop or choose a particularly flattering one which is not necessarily representative of what they actually look like.
I disagree. There are Iron rules that need to be heeded. Woe to the guy who dont. In this SMP one must navigate mine fields.
These kids should put the vidro games away because they are in one.
Its up to the individual to sift whats Iron and what is clay. There are enough references here to know a direction without excuse.
Take this **** seriously or it can kill you
 

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This is a great community. If you pay attention you can gain wisdom from the brain trust here and if you apply that wisdom in your own life you can reap great benefits.

There is going to be some silliness and some flak. But as @Atom Smasher would say there is also lots of gold to be mined here as far as these nuggets of wisdom.

Appreciate the shout out @Glassguy and I can vouch that he is a man worth listening to as his experience is utterly legit and he gets it as far as women (and life frankly) go.

Ive become acquainted with a number of members here over the years and what I find rewarding is seeing in particular the younger guys develop into solid men and realizing their goals with women and with life. I’ve told my own son about my presence here, my playboy friends know I’m here and my BF too although he’s still wrapping his head around *why* I’m here, just like some of you guys, lol.

To me it’s meaningful to give back. I know that as the chick in the treehouse not everyone appreciates me being here and I know this is a male space and that my view differs sometimes but I have been helped to better understand men and men’s concerns here which in turn has helped me be a better partner, better mother, and better friend. If my plane drops out of the sky suddenly then my son has a place to have a repository of my thoughts on all sorts of things from relationships to success to wealth and so on.

As a “hot chick” I can offer a perspective you might not otherwise have access to. I don’t date anyone here so I’m Switzerland in the sense that I’ll give a no nonsense opinion without a stake in things.

We can learn a tremendous amount from one another if we listen.

Cheers
 

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There needs to be a private, invite only sub forum for verified players only. There are way too many semi-incel and MGTOW posters here who spew garbage like "I am the prize!", "never co-habitate!", "The wall!" :eek: and other "redpill" bullchit.
There really does need to be.
Verification is impossible on an anonymous forum. Also pua's tend to be very manipulative, backstabby and untrustworthy even if such a sub were possible (which it isn't).

In the past, there were in fact active local groups, and I know of some which had reasonably cool guys who behaved about as normally as could be expected given the circumstances.

With all of the forums shut down and with local groups operating primarily in chat rather than IRL form, it could be a while before pickup communities return to action, if at all.

You don't have to meet people and see their photos for the advice to be legit. All that matters is if the advice connects and resonates with you.

I've said it before and it's no fault of Sosuave, but the only problem with all the applicable advice is by the time it registers with a member, the hot young fertile girl is already pregnant by the genetically blessed or the naturals. Not that men should do anything specifically for girls, but once they do all the stuff to become "great", the girl waiting for them has been ridden hard and put away wet.

That's life.
It matters a lot. Look at biggoal. He posted a photo and I believe we were able to give realistic feedback on how to improve his appearance. A picture does say a thousand words, and you could get a good sense of how successful he might be dating wise.

Otherwise, I don't think the advice matters much. Typically, it's very contradictory. Even if it were uniform, the player's SMV makes far more of a difference in determining outcomes than anything else.

This is an entertainment forum ultimately which is fine.
 
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Verification is impossible on an anonymous forum. Also pua's tend to be very manipulative, backstabby and untrustworthy even if such a sub were possible (which it isn't).

In the past, there were in fact active local groups, and I know of some which had reasonably cool guys who behaved about as normally as could be expected given the circumstances.

With all of the forums shut down and with local groups operating primarily in chat rather than IRL form, it could be a while before pickup communities return to action, if at all.
If you don’t like us just say so Joe, we’re all big boys here..…
 

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I'm honestly not impressed with the "advice" here. A person would have to be extremely inexperienced in life to get much from here. Or just extremely naive. It's mostly chest thumping delusions.

I'm not saying that I have anything against the individuals here, but as a collective, I don't find this place as much of a source of wisdom.
 

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I'm honestly not impressed with the "advice" here. A person would have to be extremely inexperienced in life to get much from here. Or just extremely naive. It's mostly chest thumping delusions.

I'm not saying that I have anything against the individuals here, but as a collective, I don't find this place as much of a source of wisdom.
I see you joined about 8 months ago, tell us what’s keeping you here. Grandma always said there’s a reason for everything …
 
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