"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I got so much out of this website so I just thought I'd try to give something back. I hope these tips will make you happier.

HOW TO BE HAPPY

these are the two most essential things in my opinion to make you happy

1) It doesn't matter what people think:
I know this has been said a lot but it is so essential. If you do not realize this then I'll try to help you. If the most popular person you know absolutely despises you, that doesn't matter. You'd still be doing the same thing you are now if he did like you. Your life wouldn't change at all.

2)You are perfect. This is in my opinion just as important as the first tip. You have to convince yourself that you are perfect and that you have all the great qualities neccesary. For example I myself am not the most social person in the world, but I convine myself that it's not important so it doesn't matter to me. It's hard to explain but you have to convince yourself that the qualties you have make you a perfect individual and the ones you don't have don't matter.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I gave advice about what make ME happy i think I'm smart and if the other 6 billion people in the world think im a dumb**, you know what? It doesn't matter because I'll still be happy.
 

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Mightymate...are you suggesting that we live our lives for what other people think of us? That we can only be happy if other people like us? That would kind of suggest that we can only be happy if other people tell us we can be happy. Man...that's too limiting, if you ask me. I know that we all have to follow a certain standard to be able to live in society...but I think that's a little much.
 
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