Give yourself permission to be creepy

[Konada]

I read this in Mark Manson's book but it never really clicked in me until today.

I believe most of us have been in that situation before. You see a hot girl, your primal brain kicks in and you're about to walk up to her and say 'hi', what happens? Your conscious mind says 'wait this isn't the right time I will look creepy.' and you wait...and wait... either:

1. You miss the opportunity.
2. You get another window but because you're so caught up in your head you derail the entire interaction.

Guess what? You look creepy now because you acted out of line of your intentions rather than acting on your feelings when they came.

The truth is, the longer you wait, the creepier you become. Be present in the moment, meditate, shut off that conscious brain and embrace your inner man.

A person who gets results tries, and you're gonna look creepy sometimes when you're trying. Take it in stride that you're doing something positive!

 

[Julian]

What sucks about our society today is that what is normally expected and should be accepted (approaching a woman/attempting interaction etc) is something that has been stigamitized as "creepy". Honestly you would be surprised how open people in general are when it comes to conversation.I think alot of people are socially starved and living forever alone lives.

Ive definitely fallen back and stood down on approaching just due to the social factor...IE standing in line at a store and a girl is a couple people up or behind...logistically its just more difficult..I guess theres alot of fear mongering going on when it comes to meeting strangers or approaching people. I know if some muther fukker is trying to talk to me i have zero trust and am ready for anything...

 

[Bingo-Player]

i dont think it helps a huge majority of modern women seem to be constantly scowling

i think the politically correct term for this is "resting b1tch face" amd to be honest it puts me off making a move not out of fear of rejection but out of fear as to what im getting myself involved with

 

[marmel75]

It's only creepy if she isn't into you. A guy she thinks is hot can do the exact same thing and she would love it.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I've been experimenting with something interesting for the past couple of days. I've been approaching women with an assumed attitude (assumed because it's not real) of dislike or almost disgust (as if I find her creepy). I've been seeing if this could be a way to train oneself out of so-called "approach anxiety".

It seems to be pretty effective. I was at the mall the other day trying it on girls at the kiosks that are scattered about. It definitely got me into a very relaxed state. It makes you un-invested and bullet-proof because you are completely outcome-independent. YOU are rejecting HER right off the bat, however you're "bringing yourself" to talking with her even though you really don't want to.

Although this really 100% about you and not the girl, the girls seem a bit puzzled and willing to engage for extended periods in order to figure out what's going on.

I would recommend trying this if anyone suffers from approach anxiety. Again, this is assuming a fake role for experimental and desensitization purposes. It's not an attitude you want to adopt as the default.

In this example, you would walk up to a girl at a kiosk or in a store with a neutral to slightly negative face and ask her a question about her products. Ask her as if you really don't like her and are above her. You'll see some interesting reactions and you'll notice that later on you're much more relaxed about approaching when you lose the fake attitude and get back to being real.

 

[Huffman]

I've always found that this is why people drink alcohol. Because if you're drunk, it's perfectly acceptable to be stupid/daring/creepy, and the next day you can laugh it off.

How often has this happened to you: You're having drinks with a girl at a bar. She likes you. You didn't have a lot but suddenly she's all over you and says "Hey I'm soooooooooooo drunk *smile*". Even pretending to be drunk already gives her enough permission to make a risky move. It's completely arbitrary!

It's the same for us men of course. Make up your own excuse - allow yourself to be creepy.

 

[Alvafe]

one thing you guys need to remember is, its only creepy if she don't find you hot

 

[zinc4]

I made out in a retail store in the women's clothing section in the mall with a HB 7.5 the other day who I cold approached....started with intro then 5 min small talk reading her palm then kissing her lips, making out a few seconds before saying good bye....

Was it perciebed as creepy? Who cares!