"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TenOfSpades

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Hey guys,

looking to start up tinder. What tips do you have to maximize its probabilities?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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spiegel549

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Wrote an entire post on Tinder tips...I couldn't find it, but it was recent so if you look through the thread pages you probably will find it.


Tinder works as simple as this:

1) If your good looking, have a nice smile, and a really good athletic body, that needs to be your main default photo. If you aren't super athletic and ripped your second option for main photo needs to be you dressed like a dime and smiling, having FUN. Avoid selfie mirror pics

2) put up other cool photos, group fun photos, beach pics, smiling photos, you having fun etc.

3) When you get a match, send a simple opener "hey its spiegel hows your weekend going?"

4) shoot a few fun texts back a forth and number close "hey I am usually never on this thing but why don't you send me your number and we can get together sometime:)"

Just remember its a numbers game. Much much higher flake rate then actually landing a date. Swipe your ass off! GL!
 

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Do NOT post a photo of yourself with a tiger or shirtless mirror selfies.
 

gravityeyelids

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favorite openers:

"If you don't look like your profile pictures, you're buying the drinks until you do :p"

"Tinder tells me you think i'm cute...You have excellent taste :p"

"You're kinda cute"

"Are you sitting on an F5 key? Cause that a$$ is refreshing ;)"

From that point, keep it fun and flirty, and very quickly progress to the number. For number close, i like to say "Texting is easier, what's your number?" OR "Tinder is so glitchy. Give me your number." Note that unless you have established yourself as fun and entertaining, she may stop talking to you all together after you ask. So i would avoid asking for the number until after you get a good 10 message banter going at least.

WORD OF WARNING: Your mind will be blown upon starting it with all the apparently sexy as hell girls that you could potentially bone...
1) Most of these girls are complete teases and will NEVER meet up. It's deceptive because it's actually pretty difficult to get girls to meet up. Flake rate is very high.
2) I found a wonderful rule for myself to follow: IF SHE DOESN'T HAVE A FULL BODY PIC, SHE is FAT and/or UGLY. Trust me. If a girl has a semi-decent body, she is going to be showing it off in some way on a site as shallow as tinder. I have found this to be almost 100% true. If a girl has pictures that are all of her head/face in flattering lighting and angles....she is FAT and UGLY. Even chest and up shots are deceiving because they try to make their cleavage and face appealing, but below the waist they are HHUUUUGE. Before you meet up with ANY girl, make sure that you get other pictures via Snapchat or texting if you havnt seen her body. Unless you're okay with banging big girls...Then by all means, have at it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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