Give me some moral support guys!

[shyguy208]

Guys I just need some moral support here...

I just broke off my friendship with a (former ?) one-itis. I guess if I am honest with myself I was partly only friends with her because I was hoping to get a bang at some point (get some of the scraps so to speak). But then again I did also want to be friends and do care about her (as a friend).

We work for the same organisation and our first half a year of training meant that we saw a lot of each other - almost everyday. After my foolish AFC moves at the start we agreed to be friends. We argued a lot like friends do from time to time. Anyway, there have been several times where we were going to end the friendship because it was getting quite heavy but we sorted it (or at least I thought we did). Things were going well until recently when the first part of our training finished. Courses have finished and there is no more coursework or exams. We work at different sites now. After this she started to avoid going out with me and reduced any kind of contact. She even started to give excuses when I didn't even mention going out at all.

Anyways, I figured that this b1tch has been staying as friends (or pretending to be) so that she could use me to help her with the courses and also make things easier for herself since we had to see each everyday. I just feel that my friendship has been betrayed. I would have been happy to help her even if she didn't pretend to be friends - just like I helped others on the courses. I know that I shouldn't let it get to me but it's easier said than done!

Anyway I told her that I have had enough of her sh1te and lies. I think I ended relatively nicely. Her reply was just 'OK then'. It was all done by e-mail because I just couldn't face speaking to her.

I am determined to stick to my decision but it is very tough to drop a friendship just like that - I have never had to do it before! It's hard to admitt to myself that I have been fvcked over by somebody I considered my friend! I will have to see her every now and again at work get togethers. I could avoid these as much as possible but i think it would do me harm in terms of social interactions with people from work.

I am still a wussy AFC even after the number of posts that I have read from this board. I am afraid that I will eventually give in and submit to this B1tch again. Any ideas of how to stay strong at times like these?

 

[Donny Brasco]

Jerk off alot.

I think you let yourself get way to serious over a girl "FRIEND" and lose site of what is really important, getting laid. Who cares if she comes back or not, get a life and show her what she missed instead of AFCing around.

And for god sake take off the panties, and grow some nuts. (I mean that in a good way, insprational like...)

 

[T.T. Boy]

FTOW.

 

[shyguy208]

Thanks guys, I think?

What is FTOW?

 

[T.T. Boy]

F u c k ten other women. It's the best way to forget about any particular girl.

 

[KiInCollege]

In your case, Date other women, make other friends, and just chill with the guys and go hunting for hot girls.

 

[Doppler4000]

You gotta stay away from this chick totally. Just remember the short-term pain will be worth the long term gain of getting her out of your system.

 

[Jay26]

Good move, it would be no good for you to hang around this girl anymore.

So yeah, cut the contact and move on, don't look back. Kind of a sucky situation to find yourself in but what can you do.

Go out and find some new HB's, but make a real effort. You gotta go out into the world and get yourself some hotties, only after banging some will you get some true perspective.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Talking to Shyguy is liking talking to a younger version of me. Shyguy, despite what some people think, men and women can never be REAL friends. Female friends fall into 3 categories:

1. Women that keep you around out of convenient or necessity (this was your situation). Usually, when you are in this situation it's because you like her more than she likes you.

2. The female friends that are attracted to you, but you're not attracted to them. Always keep this in mind: They will stop talking to you as soon as they get a boyfriend. I have a female friend that met a guy in October. June was the first time I saw her since October, and I've only spoken to her 2 times in 8 months. She said she was busy, but she would talk to her boyfriend every day.

3. Neither of you is attracted to other. This situation is rare, but it would be exactly like situation number 2. As soon as she gets a boyfriend, she will slowly phase you out until you aren't even talking anymore.

Stick to having male friends.

 

[krd]

Originally posted by MR_PERFECT
Stick to having male friends.

Actually this advice is not completely sound, because it could happen that a female friend has a bunch of attractive friends she could introduce you to. This is how social networks are formed, and for the most part--you may have a better chance of finding a girlfriend this way than by going it alone. Of course having a guy friend could help you out in the same way, if he doesn't decide to keep 'em all for himself. But if all guys followed the advice of never having female friends, the idea of social networks could never be possible. That said, it's good to try meeting people on your own as well.

But yeah, I agree that it is best to stop talking to this girl and move on. Stick to your guns. Go out and try meeting some new women (this is crucial if you can do it--I realize for some, it's not that easy), and she eventually won't even matter anymore.