"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Give it a shot or NEXT! ?

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j8snx1

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Yeah, so my last post (i think) was about me trying to take HB7.5 to either pool or coffee date.

I was gonna call her today, but I was busy and got home around 5, and I was dead tired. I texted the girl and told her

"Hey _______! I couldn't set anything today with you because I was busy, but give me a call around 10pm today sweetheart."
***I just "assumed the sale" and sh*t, but possibly my downfall***

She replies: "Oh..I was busy too.. Sweetheart?"

Obviously couldn't tell her tone of voice or nothing, but I figured, if I called today then it would've been the 2nd "no", so I thought NEXTTTTTTTT and texted:

"Actually, never mind. We'll figure something out later on. See ya."

She replies: "Okay :) Bye bye~"

I'm assuming the worst, but keeping my head up high. I didn't take her out once but I'm nexting her. Was I too quick to judge or did I save myself a lot of time by assuming that her IL was low for me?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Sweethart?? You seem like an all american boy who goes to church all the time and does what his mommy tells him. You need to losen up dude. That text you sent made you sound like a girl. Why did you want her to call you? What good would that possibly do? I suggest you lossen your collar and chill out. Im gonna say next cause if youre this "bookish" online, i can only imagine how you actually are.
 
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toddC

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yea you have to use BABE...that usually gets a god response back :)
 
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DJ4Real

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She was confused as to why you called her a "sweet heart"....if you're going to give a girl a nickname...make it sound masculine.....no sweet hearts....or huns...or not nothing like that.
 
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The best damage control would have been to say something like:

"Yeah, you know, I'm like Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca. I'm sure you see it too! Anyway, call me later!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One more shot! Give it a go, at worst she wont apreciate your sense of humor and be automatically NXD.
 
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j8snx1

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Hahahaha I DO go to church, but I don't think I sounded like some sleezy mama's boy when I say "sweetheart." But whatever, live and learn.

I'll erase sweetheart from my vocabulary and replace it with BABE. thanks fellas.

As for HB7.5 , Iono. I MIGHT give it another go.
 
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