Give Her Space (to Multitext)

[bigneil]

Have you ever noticed that sometimes it's best to not reply to your girl's texts to see where she will go with the conversation? I shut my phone off for 6 hours and come back to find something like this (a dramatization).

1) 3:50PM I just wanted to talk to you, love, that's all.
2) 4:01PM Is everything ok?
3) 4:02PM I still want to go!
4) 4:45PM I'm sorry if I offended you in any way, I probably shouldn't have said that. I just want for us to be together, love.
5) 9:45PM I watched that movie you recommended and you were right, I loved it!

Notice how she reveals her thought pattern simply by virtue of the fact I didn't reply? If you reply minute by minute, you never know where she would have gone with it.

It takes time to get her to care enough to multi-text, but when she does, let her.

 

[wifehunter]

Write a book lady! Stop blowing up my phone!!!

 

[sch]

Leaving space is one of the most important texting tips I got.
Don't ever show her more affection than she shows to you -- that's the second one.

 

[TheProspect]

Leaving space is one of the most important texting tips I got.
Don't ever show her more affection than she shows to you -- that's the second one.

That also applies in person as well.

Some additional texting suggestions:

Not concrete, but some other general guidelines are to never write messages longer than her last one and for every 2 messages she sends send 1 back. Never send two in a row no matter how much time in between.

 

[MrAddiction]

Who knows what that borderline did in 5 hours

I do - probably fcuking another man or two...

 

[Jetleg]

I always do it, not intentionally though, i just don't have enough time to reply.

I've noticed that all chicks would complain about the fact that i don't reply quick enough but it makes the texting much better because she knows she needs to put more effort to me to answer back.

It would be like:
- Today i've to bla bla bla (tells me about stuff i don't really care about)
- Hey whats up? (30 min hours later)
- I'm horney ( one hour later)

 

[Desdinova]

Have you ever noticed that sometimes it's best to not reply to your girl's texts to see where she will go with the conversation?

Yeah I've done that. I won't shut my phone off, but I'll come up with some excuse for not replying in case she asks. I'll tell her I went out with a friend, or I was really tired, etc. It gets their imagination and mind focused on YOU, and that's exactly where you want to be with a woman.

 

[Roober]

I always do it, not intentionally though, i just don't have enough time to reply.

I've noticed that all chicks would complain about the fact that i don't reply quick enough but it makes the texting much better because she knows she needs to put more effort to me to answer back.

It would be like:
- Today i've to bla bla bla (tells me about stuff i don't really care about)
- Hey whats up? (30 min hours later)
- I'm horney ( one hour later)

The general flow of texts... women are strange like that... show or tell you some random thing, no response.. text something that requires a response... no response.... text something sexual.... possible response

 

[logicallefty]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

 

[sazc]

lol, anxiety makes the heart grow fonder
(Or leads to bpd tendencies revealing themselves)

 

[Reykhel]

Mirror her interest:

She takes two hours to respond......you take at least two hours to respond.

She replies with a short answer.....give her a short answer.

Don't mirror her smilies though, for the love of God....

Innuendos and make assumptions about her instead of always agreeing and trying to build comfort...

They need tension. Anticipation is deliciously good.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Easier solution: don't text at all.

The only texts I send are addresses or replies to logistical information.

Break her of that texting habit. This wall of words may sound cute, but it's annoying as hell in an LTR.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Train these women immediately. They can talk to their orbiters. The only talking we're doing is in person where the magic happens. Talking on the phone doesn't help you bang her, so why are you doing it?

 

[Skyline]

I feel as if this is a lot more effective with a girl that you're exclusive with. A random girl that you meet may not be as responsive. Especially if she isn't showing off the bat high interest.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I feel as if this is a lot more effective with a girl that you're exclusive with. A random girl that you meet may not be as responsive. Especially if she isn't showing off the bat high interest.

Exclusivity is irrelevant. It all depends on her interest level. Occasionally, you meet a chick who would suck you dry on the first or second date. On the other hand, many saps in LTR are just placeholders while she waits for the real man to come around. Space works an any woman that has enough interest for you to have a shot.