"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girls with trust issues

forgottenDreams

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Gents,

Could you please share your experiences dealing with women who have trust issues?
Would you be kind and describe how they act during early stages of dating? Are they a lot of headache in the long run? Is this something they can fix easily?

Please share real life experiences.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hiker

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My ex had trust issues. It was a pain is the ass and I don't know if she could have "fixed it." The issues probably stemmed from her dad having an affair and then her mom projecting things onto her. So counseling and therapy would likely be needed.

She didn't come right out and say she had problems with trust. It was revealed over time. At first it seemed playful. For example: I would call a friend and she would jokingly ask if it was my other girlfriend on the line.

Her insecurities progressively got worse. It got to a point where she would actively look for evidence of infidelity without probable cause. One time she found a bobby pin on the rug in my apartment. How it got there I have no idea, but she freaked out and accused me of having girls over.

It might feel good at first to know that a girl is into you enough to reveal her jealousy and make sure you’re “hers.” A little female jealousy is probably a good thing. But to always be under another’s suspicion is unfair, frustrating, and unhealthy for any relationship.
 

The Duke

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Exactly what Hiker said. Girls with trust issues will ultimately sabotage the relationship. They will try and make you feel bad for going to happy hour with your coworkers. They won't want you to hang out with your buddies.

Every time they act out you correct them and let it be known you will not tolerate the crap. Give them a chance to change their behavior. If they never progress then you dump them.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship, if you don't have it, you don't have a relationship worth building.
 

forgottenDreams

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Thank you thank you thank you guys, that was great info!
And Hiker, it's the exact situation here, her dad was having affairs! Thanks man this is going to help me a lot :)
 

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I'll be the odd one out here. If I thought my girl fully trusted me I'm doing it wrong. I'm not saying she should be a blithering nervous wreck every time you go out with your mates but I wouldn't want her getting too comfortable and depriving her of the chick drama she craves of being kept on her toes. I don't think any woman wants to 100% trust her man in all honesty. That comes from the "equalist" school of thought and as we all know that's B.S.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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