Girls with trust issues

[forgottenDreams]

Gents,

Could you please share your experiences dealing with women who have trust issues?
Would you be kind and describe how they act during early stages of dating? Are they a lot of headache in the long run? Is this something they can fix easily?

Please share real life experiences.

 

[Hiker]

My ex had trust issues. It was a pain is the ass and I don't know if she could have "fixed it." The issues probably stemmed from her dad having an affair and then her mom projecting things onto her. So counseling and therapy would likely be needed.

She didn't come right out and say she had problems with trust. It was revealed over time. At first it seemed playful. For example: I would call a friend and she would jokingly ask if it was my other girlfriend on the line.

Her insecurities progressively got worse. It got to a point where she would actively look for evidence of infidelity without probable cause. One time she found a bobby pin on the rug in my apartment. How it got there I have no idea, but she freaked out and accused me of having girls over.

It might feel good at first to know that a girl is into you enough to reveal her jealousy and make sure you’re “hers.” A little female jealousy is probably a good thing. But to always be under another’s suspicion is unfair, frustrating, and unhealthy for any relationship.

 

[The Duke]

Exactly what Hiker said. Girls with trust issues will ultimately sabotage the relationship. They will try and make you feel bad for going to happy hour with your coworkers. They won't want you to hang out with your buddies.

Every time they act out you correct them and let it be known you will not tolerate the crap. Give them a chance to change their behavior. If they never progress then you dump them.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship, if you don't have it, you don't have a relationship worth building.

 

[forgottenDreams]

Thank you thank you thank you guys, that was great info!
And Hiker, it's the exact situation here, her dad was having affairs! Thanks man this is going to help me a lot

 

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I'll be the odd one out here. If I thought my girl fully trusted me I'm doing it wrong. I'm not saying she should be a blithering nervous wreck every time you go out with your mates but I wouldn't want her getting too comfortable and depriving her of the chick drama she craves of being kept on her toes. I don't think any woman wants to 100% trust her man in all honesty. That comes from the "equalist" school of thought and as we all know that's B.S.