Hey DJs and fellow DJs in training how do i talk to girls who give me the cold shoulders? For example, I go up to a girl and i say hey and i open up and say hi then we talk for like 3 minutes she talks about track and all and i ask her how that is and then i say how her hairs cute then she's like ok and leaves. Ok that's just an example but how do i deal with cold shoulders?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl's with ICE on their shoulders
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
I wouldnt really consider that the cold shoulder. Try to deepen the rapport and demonstrate value. Throw in some ****y funny and you should do a hell of a lot better than you did.
Çloud¤$trider
Don Juan
Originally posted by Morphiex
read the bible.... and search some posts ....
Dont you hate it when people say that??? lol I DO!
Heres what ive learned from the all mighty bible(**** lol) but to never talk about her apparence, but to neg hit her on her attitude(hbs only!) tease her if you can, Dont feel bad if you get rejected times from times, some of the broads now a days are just cruel!! Youll get another chance.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
well then u havent really read it , u have just browsed through it .... if u take the time to read and UNDERSTAND what is in it u will find that the most simple SAME questions many new people come and ask over and over and over again can be answered by reading it , or else why would almost all the members that have been here keep telling these new people to read the bible.... ?Originally posted by Çloud¤$trider
Dont you hate it when people say that??? lol I DO!
Heres what ive learned from the all mighty bible(**** lol) but to never talk about her apparence, but to neg hit her on her attitude(hbs only!) tease her if you can, Dont feel bad if you get rejected times from times, some of the broads now a days are just cruel!! Youll get another chance.
And people if u want spesific answers u have to start giving more details about the questions.... u wont get much help by asking : a girl is giving me a cold shoulder what should i do ?
You call that getting the cold shoulder?
That's nothing. Hell, that's the fvckin bahamas compared to some of the cold shoulders many of us have recieved.
How to avoid this sorta thing? That is an impossible question to answer. Each time this comes up is in a new context, and a new situation.
The only answer is: Go out, go to the ice cream shop, and order a heaping double stack of cold shoulder. Experiance is how you learn to deal with that sorta thing.
That's nothing. Hell, that's the fvckin bahamas compared to some of the cold shoulders many of us have recieved.
How to avoid this sorta thing? That is an impossible question to answer. Each time this comes up is in a new context, and a new situation.
The only answer is: Go out, go to the ice cream shop, and order a heaping double stack of cold shoulder. Experiance is how you learn to deal with that sorta thing.