Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls with boyfriends: rant

JJMcLure

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She had moderate IL at the start.

She decided to audition you but after the date she decided she didn't want to pursue anything further with you (don't take it personally).

She does not have a BF. She is "seeing someone" doesn't mean much - read Gio's definition on that.

But let me say one thing in this chick's favour! :eek: Rather than string you along on a bunch of dates until she finds someone else she likes more, she was up front about not wanting another date. Plus, she didn't try to keep you on the backburner in case she needed someone to fill her spare time at some point.

She let it be clearly known that you shouldn't pursue her further, saving you time. No need to worry about her IL, keep calling (in your case emailing), wait for return calls, get flaked dates, stood up even...

There are Attention wh0res and Professional Daters out there who will waste your time letting you take them out time after time then eventually throw a BF or we're just friends line in (if you let them). This chick didn't do that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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