Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by WesCottII
Bullsh*t. If you want a chick with a b/f, you go for her.
I've just done it, taken a girl from her b/f. If he wasn't good enough to keep her then she has the right to come to me.
How likely is that to happen?.....Originally posted by Jay-X
it's not only about him being good enough to keep her. imagine this situation:
this summer you win a holiday alone in hawaii... while you are there having lots of fun, she's in the city and she meets dimebag. he follows your advice and he takes her away from you.
now, was it YOUR fault?! what could have you done? would you have refused to go on holiday, just not to lose her? well, on the other side, that would be really AFC, wouldn't it?