Girls with bf's in highschool....

[Jokerlsk]

Okay, so there's this one girl that i've been checking out lately, but the problem is that she's got a bf already. I've never been faced with this situation before, but I've never felt this confident, or good about myself either. Although, I am in a sling, and I did break my collar bone about three weeks ago........ It doesn't matter though. It doesn't affect my personality or confidence. Just a little embarrassing . With this particular girl, I feel like I've actually stepped out of my AFCdom, and made her work for my attention. A lot of changes have been made in my life, and I now feel comfortable with people. I've been stepping out of my comfort zone, and I've gained a lot more respect and social proof. I know some of you guys don't think this works, but just being yourself does wonders. I just don't know how to go about this girl. I don't want to wait around and fall into the friendzone because i'm sure she has interest in me. SHe's never mentioned her bf to me before, but i've known through some of my bros. What would you guys do?

 

[Smack]

Well if she's never mentioned her boyfriend to you then perhaps she wants to give you the impression she is available.

Although, getting with a girl you know has a boyfriend is usually a pretty sh!tty thing to do, so find some more girls. Use this girl as practice to flirt with; using girls that you're never going to screw is good practice because you can constantly push your boundaries without worrying about fvcking up, since you're not actually going to sex her.

I did this when I was your age and it worked well.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Well if she's never mentioned her boyfriend to you then perhaps she wants to give you the impression she is available.

Well i hope so lol.
I think I might dothat. The thing is, is that i don't sit near her in class, so it'll be tough, but I'll figure something out.
Anymore advice?

 

[Igetit!]

I'm sure there are hundreds of hundreds of other girls,single girls at your school. Why in the world would you want to pursue some girl who's already taken? Why put yourself in a situation where drama and a potential physical altercation might occur? I don't care how "hot" this girl might be,you can't tell me she's worth possibly getting your face bashed in. And don't tell me you're 6 foot tall and can beat up the whole world. The point is why put yourself in the mess in the first place?

Now that that's out of the way,on to some other concerns:
What makes you think that this girl might be interested in you? What has she said or done to give you that impression?
How long have you known this girl? Do you to talk to each other every day at school,and if so,what do you two talk about? You said that she's never mentioned her boyfriend to you,so obviously two to have talked before.

Don't worry about the friendzone. Jokerisk,you surprise me. After all the things you've learned since you've been here,you still don't know how to avoid the friendzone. Wow. When you find out how easy it is to avoid,you're going to feel so dumb.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Bro, my father taught me to not start something I can't finish. I haven't made a move on her or anything yet, so there really isn't anything to worry about. I haven't put myself in a mess yet. i'm just interested in a girl. There's nothing wrong with that.

I've known whom this girl is for about 3 years, but i've never actually talked to her until last week. Yeah, i talk to her everyday, but sometimes it's just me or her saying "hey" to one another.
I catch her looking at me in class a lot and she sits far away from me (assigned seats.) I always keep eye contact and smile at her, and I make her blush. She initiates kino with me. Ex: Playfully punching me when I'm messing with her, nudging me, just light, funstuff.
I just find it easier to talk to her because our personalities are similar. I find it natural talking to her. Nothing big.

 

[Jokerlsk]

bump

 

[Igetit!]

Jokerisk,one of the things that causes guys to fall into the friendzone is being in a girl's presense for a long period of time without showing a romantic/sexual side of yourself to the girl. It takes less than a week or two to be LJBFed by a girl,yet you've known this girl for over 3 years. If you've known her for that long,talking to her everyday,and now after 3 years you've just decided to pursue her,more than likely it's already over with.
You lost your chance with her over 2 years and 11 months ago.
If you go and ask her out now,surely you know she's not just going to break up with her boyfriend and start dating you just because you (after 3 years) finally made your interest known.

 

[MisterMcGee]

I don't believe you have to be overtly sexual with her or anything, but she needs to see you're a sexual being and such in order to start crushing on you.

 

[Jokerlsk]

How would you go about doing this?

 

[Igetit!]

How would you go about doing this?

Yes,how would you go about doing this? I'm curious to see this myself. How would you suggest that a guy who this girl's known for over 3 years in a non-romantic,non-sexual,platonic way,all of the sudden out of the blue start showing her his sexual side to her,a side she's never seen of him since they've known each other. Oh,I almost forgot....not only would I like to see how you suggest he goes about this,but how would you suggest he handle that girl's boyfriend who she's been dating for a while.

I'm certain he won't be too pleased about Jokerisk going after his girl,so how should Joker handle this this little problem as well?

Ohhh,this is so exciting!!! I'm glued to my computer screen just waiting for an answer to this one!

 

[MisterMcGee]

Doing a take-away is the only way. Then return with a new sexual and interesting frame.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Bro, I've known who she is for 3 years. I haven't gotten to know her until NOW. She's just now getting to know me. Why don't you get off my back and stop keyboard jockying? Hey, at least I'm trying.
I don't think there's anything wrong with going after someone elses girl. She doesn't belong to him, does she? I think that a lot of guys here will agree with me.
Please get over yourself Igetit.

 

[Ganondorf]

^^

Yes she does in a sense because they are in a commited relationship

why go through the trouble chasing some girl who's already taken? i don't see why some of you guys love this so.

there are tons of single girls out there, hot and begging for male attention, yet you want some girl to sneak behind her man's back and be with you instead?


yeah, she would be a real winner there

Why would you steal someones car when you can just go find your own brand new one instead?

 

[SharinganUser]

Jokerisk, how do you know she isn't doing this to stroke her ego??? What do you want from this girl?

No matter the answer, I encourage you to go for it, but don't expect it to be easy or that you'll succeed. Just don't get hung up on this chick, and spin those plates.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I don't, but she's not the only girl i'm attracted too.
I think I'll prolly just practice on her like the other guy said, and try to find other girls.

 

[SharinganUser]

I don't, but she's not the only girl i'm attracted too.
I think I'll prolly just practice on her like the other guy said, and try to find other girls.

Good that is what I was hoping to hear.

 

[Igetit!]

Bro, I've known who she is for 3 years. I haven't gotten to know her until NOW. She's just now getting to know me. Why don't you get off my back and stop keyboard jockying? Hey, at least I'm trying.
I don't think there's anything wrong with going after someone elses girl. She doesn't belong to him, does she? I think that a lot of guys here will agree with me.
Please get over yourself Igetit.

Yo,chill out dude. I'm just busting your chops man. I want you to suceed just as much as everyone else here,you should know that. Anyway,MisterMcGee's advice is actually right on.
Takeaways do work,but they're kind of tricky to do. First,you'd have to be away from her for a while. And I mean a good length of time. Then once you come back,you have to have changed. Instead of the normal way you are with her right now,you'd have to have changed into a exciting/sexual guy with her.More than likely,you won't be able to do a takeaway because you see her everyday at school. If you try to stay away from her in order to do the takeaway,she'd just going to wonder why you're avoiding her,which will probably make her feel hurt,which will not only make things worse but will make the takeaway useless. I know you like this girl,but it'd be soooo much easier for you if you were interested in a girl who you rarely see and who doesn't know you very well.

 

[S0LID]

I dunno if I could be bothered with that situation... Depends how i felt...

Usually school relationships don't last... So maybe say in convo something like "hey have you ever been to a party in fancy a dress?.... you'd look sexy in a little devils outfit, HOT!".

That;s just my personality tho....like me duke you aint like me haha

x

 

[Jokerlsk]

She actually doesn't know me that well Igetit, and I'm sorry for being too defensive.
Actually, like 30 minutes ago, my parents sent me off to the store to buy milk for dinner, and I saw her there with her family....
They were in the checkout line next to mine, and I didn't say anything. I don't know if that was the right thing to do or not, but I just pretended she wasn't there, although I saw her looking at me. Instead I engaged in covo with the cashier...

 

[Jokerlsk]

Do you guys think that was an ******* move?
BTW, i have been sexual with her. I've used kino a lot, and she's initiated kino a lot as well