"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girls with ALOT of guy friends

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So whats the deal with girls who surround themselves with AFC's. Been dating this girl seems nice enough, always interested in hearing stories about the crazy stuff me and my friends get up to. Then she'll reply with what her friends do in similar situations, except they are always about her GUY friends...she doesn't seem to have many female friends.

She asked me to meet up with her in some bar and when I got theyre she was sitting waiting with 6 guys around her(jesus). Im not the jealous type but 6 guys doting on her is a bit much. Still when I got there tho I was the centre of her attention but Im just a bit weirded out. Building rapport with this girl is basically hearing about how crazy her Guy friends are. Is there anything extra to these girls I should know?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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when I got theyre she was sitting waiting with 6 guys around her(jesus). Im not the jealous type but 6 guys doting on her is a bit much... Is there anything extra to these girls I should know?
Yes. When the hive gets threatened, the male drones move the Queen Bee to a safe spot so that she can't get attacked and then work to seal up the tunnel before the invaders get in. I saw that on a nature show.
 

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I am sure there´s a topic with the EXACT same name. Take a look, there´re many replies there.
 

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Girls with few girl friends and a lot of dude bros around them are *****s.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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trverb said:
So whats the deal with girls who surround themselves with AFC's. Been dating this girl seems nice enough, always interested in hearing stories about the crazy stuff me and my friends get up to. Then she'll reply with what her friends do in similar situations, except they are always about her GUY friends...she doesn't seem to have many female friends.

She asked me to meet up with her in some bar and when I got theyre she was sitting waiting with 6 guys around her(jesus). Im not the jealous type but 6 guys doting on her is a bit much. Still when I got there tho I was the centre of her attention but Im just a bit weirded out. Building rapport with this girl is basically hearing about how crazy her Guy friends are. Is there anything extra to these girls I should know?
Good point.
 

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Okay, seriously, any girl meeting you for a date that has 6 guys attending to her when you get there and that is talking about how guys are crazy for her while on a date with you - is not dating material.

What's the deal with them? They need extraordinarily large copious amounts of male attention to feel validated, and until they have a certificate of completion showing that they've successfully undergone extensive therapy to remedy that, they always will.
 

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Girls with a lot of guy friends is not ALWAYS bad. A girl I hooked up with a few years ago, who ONLY had guy friends (and this is a Riverdancer). She found she connected more with guys than girls (said girls were too backstabbing and annoying).

But...she did not have 6 guys all around her.

Your situation sounds like she wants you in her "realm of guys"...

back off and see what happens. She'll notice you NOT giving her the attention than being "part of the clan". And she'll wonder why you are not around, or calling, etc.

Then decide what to do (mack her or not).

personally I would not invest too much time in this chick unless she shows some obvious signs of wanting to be around JUST you. Other than that, you are just another dude giving her attention.

mike
 

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trverb said:
So whats the deal with girls who surround themselves with AFC's. Been dating this girl seems nice enough, always interested in hearing stories about the crazy stuff me and my friends get up to. Then she'll reply with what her friends do in similar situations, except they are always about her GUY friends...she doesn't seem to have many female friends.

She asked me to meet up with her in some bar and when I got theyre she was sitting waiting with 6 guys around her(jesus). Im not the jealous type but 6 guys doting on her is a bit much. Still when I got there tho I was the centre of her attention but Im just a bit weirded out. Building rapport with this girl is basically hearing about how crazy her Guy friends are. Is there anything extra to these girls I should know?
And we get back to the whole "Ratio" issue. Reverse the numbers, and she would be all over your $hit. She is a full blown Attention Wh0re. She thrives off your psychic energy, like a fukking parasite. She wont put out, but needs you around for non sexual entertainment, like a Court Jester.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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personally I would not invest too much time in this chick unless she shows some obvious signs of wanting to be around JUST you. Other than that, you are just another dude giving her attention.
well heres the thing it wasnt a "date" as such, we have a similar set of friends who were going out anyway. When we met up I swiftly took her off on our own.

We went on a date later just the two of us. The point Im trying to make is when Im talking to this girl its like shes trying to impress me with F***ing GUY stories??? She is interested in JUST being with me alone but its just one of those nagging things in my head.

She knows my intentions "I aint no friend, Baby"
 
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