Girls whom you don't instantly 'click' with?

[GoodForm]

In past girls whom I've met and gotten along pretty well with from the get go, I've ended up being pretty successful in escalating and sleeping with them etc etc. Words just flow and it seems easy.

Yet every now and then I meet girls whom seem to be holding back. It's hard talking to them and for some reason conversations don't flow. Attraction definately seems to be there not to mention sharing a lot of interests (but for all I know I may be wrong). Now to me those girls have always intrigued me and I don't know if it is in the fact they seem more challenging or not but how do I work my way in and maybe chip down their defences or something. I find you seem to have to invest alot of time into them (past girlfriend) or you move on and they ignore you for it as if they were about to open up just when you left.

Any you DJ's meet those types of girls? How did you get past her defences? I know out there there is easy lays and girls to be had if you got the confidence and game but I guess I'm past that stage now and looking for something with a little more 'meaningfulness'. Any stories, tips etc will be greatly appreciated. Cheers guys!

 

[Jariel]

I know exactly what you're talking about. To be honest when a girl is too much hard work, I just next them. It's just no fun for me so I don't see the point in wasting my time.

Normally I would just assume if a girl isn't responding well then she's not attracted, but I've been wrong many times. One girl I met up with from POF showed all the signs of disinterest, avoiding eye contact, acting really cool, folded arms and one word answers, but she kissed me at the end of the night and told me I was way better looking than my photos. It was a complete surprise and it was a good kiss, but when I reflected, I realised I'd spend 2 hours of complete boredom and had no fun at all, so I just ditched her and moved on.

Sometimes a girl will be defensive and you can get round that quite quickly, once she sees you're a decent guy, but if she keeps them up you're in for a lot of hard work and very little fun.

 

[GoodForm]

I get what you mean mate but its not that. Signs are there, she shows interest but when we talk its... awkward. She'll ask me questions, I'll do the same but we just can't carry the convo. If she wants cold then yeah I'd def nxt her but when you share the same interests and you've seen her staring at you shirtless, laughing and smiling at what you say, not to mention sharing same interests, Im willing to give it a shot. Better than your typical run of the mill HB all focus'd on going out, shopping etc etc.

*** Just to make ut clear this is not an AFC post but rather how do you game an awkward, shy or just a girl you dont seem to click with.

 

[GoodForm]

Sorry about the double typo, struggling to type on my phone. Cheers for reply too dude!

 

[Zerro]

Rather annoying this has been the norm for me lately. Even girls who start out strong will suddenly cool down for no apparent reason and go into a hot/cold cycle. Since I can't find a pattern to it I'm not sure what I could be doing that may cause it.

Good question. My theory is that some girls are just not a good matchup personality wise even if they are physically attracted to some extent, also some girls are just flat out empty and boring.

This probably has a lot of truth to it, communication tends to be a big stumbling block and more so from their end than from mine. Seems that usually only the ones who are taken can talk to me without ever giving the deer-in-the-headlights look and forcing me to carry most of the conversation, even from ones who are just as educated (if not more so) than I.