Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls Who Who Go Out Drinking Alot??

soulforge

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So guys would you consider a relationship with a female who goes out drinking every other weekend? Bars, clubs etc..

Would you try to change her, or just skip her by and find a better quality girl??

Are these kind of woman bad news in the long run.. or do you find this acceptable??
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dustmuffin

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I think if she is into you she will follow your lead. If she doesn't.... Next!
 

thatfeel

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It seems contradictory. Going out to bars is a thing women do because its fun. The easiest way to a girls pants is to show her a fun time. Sometimes they drink and get drunk and sometimes they don't. Ive honestly never met or been in contact with an attractive woman who puts out that isn't constantly going to bars and clubs and especially checking in and posting about it on facebook. Hell even the 39 year old I mention in one of my threads has a PhD and still goes out constantly to the watering holes. She got out of a relationship 4 months ago so that could explain it but I seriously doubt she was much different before. And she had seriously loads upon loads of pictures of her out with her friends at bars and clubs in her Facebook.
 

soulforge

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Hmmm not sure if its a healthy thing, if your wanting a long term relationship with girl
 

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Idk man. Pretty sure this same chick still went out all the time while she was in an ltr. I don't think they're mutually exclusive. Not enough evidence in bar going to constitute a claim if it makes a girl low quality LTR material.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Young OG

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I personally wouldn't consider a ltr with a chick who goes out drinking/partying all the time. The chances of them getting wasted and banging a guy they meet at a bar or club is very high. There are plenty of women out there who don't go out drinking all the time. I would rather date one that's not a party type girl.
 

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I personally wouldn't consider a ltr with a chick who goes out drinking/partying all the time. The chances of them getting wasted and banging a guy they meet at a bar or club is very high. There are plenty of women out there who don't go out drinking all the time. I would rather date one that's not a party type girl.

I agree with this.. the chances of her riding other dik after getting drunk are pretty high..
 

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I personally wouldn't consider a ltr with a chick who goes out drinking/partying all the time. The chances of them getting wasted and banging a guy they meet at a bar or club is very high. There are plenty of women out there who don't go out drinking all the time. I would rather date one that's not a party type girl.
This. Party girls are not LTR material. They are bring home and bang and call them a cab material.
 

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let me ask you this:
Do you want to own a village bicycle? lol
 

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The question at hand is almost akin to asking "are girls who aren't virgins worth having LTR with?" I mean come on, every woman has likes to have fun and have sex.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I agree that party girls are not worth getting into a relationship with, but what you described doesn't really seem like a "party girl."

Going out to the bars every other weekend isn't a lot, in my opinion. Girls go out more than guys anyway, I don't think it's low character to go out twice a month, unless she's getting absolutely sh!tfaced, slutty, and/or belligerent when she does go out.

Then yeah that would be a major red flag.
 

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There are millions of types of girls that go out and drink. They're not all bar sluts. You'll generally find certain types of chicks in different venues. In bars, they will be more laid back, in clubs, they're gonna be mainly sluts, or just younger chicks having fun.

I personally don't game anywhere except in bars/clubs. Occasionally I see a chick who I see as LTR material at a first glance. It all depends on how much they like me, and their attitude towards me whether I am gonna like her that much.
 

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Going out and drinking with friends is not a bad thing in my opinion. Whats bad are the sacrifices and choices she makes to do that. If she's missing work or choosing that over spending time with you then it's a problem. If she doesn't invite you then it's a problem. I rarely see girls go out and drink like that and not be slvtting around in bars also, it's a whole lifestyle that goes with that. Surprise her one day and go hang out with them, if they have guys at the table your female is a slore.
 

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Well, you could bring her home and share a glass or two together ...

Or you guys can go together ...

But if she shows any sign of "addictive" behaviour (getting high on drunk, fighting with others, making a scene, etc), and she does not want to change because obviously you want healthy woman in your life, then, NEXT her ... period...

My GF drink only a glass of wine/beer and that's it ... she comes back with me in my room and we make love all night long ... :)
 

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Those are bonafide good time sluts. Pump and dump all day, son, nothing more.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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