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Girls who smoke weed and guys that don't

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I know a lot of girls I work with and some other friends who smoke weed. I wanted to see what some of you say as to whether you think girls who like to smoke might be turned off, or if you would lose value with them if you yourself don't smoke. I am not talking about complete stoners but some who do it on occasion for fun.

Do you guys think most guys would lose value in the girls eyes most of the time and they would see you as uncool? I know it probably depends on the girl but I'm talking about the majority. Any help is appreciated thanks.
 

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tsmith2334

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El Don said:
Do you guys think most guys would lose value in the girls eyes most of the time and they would see you as uncool?
I would assume they do. There is a whole culture to smoking, and most people who smoke completely love it. Rolling dutches, a new strain, stuff like that and it connects and attracts smokers to one another. That's why there is a really friendly culture and peaceful among stoners.

So, realistically I think there would be some social value lost in not smoking. That pertains to most women, I'm sure there are exceptions.
 

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Most of the girls I know are chill with it but it all depends on who/where and the type of people you hang out with. Here in California its the norm to occasionally smoke a few bowls, and its legal for me, I have a medical card!
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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what kinda career are you getting into?

my excuse to not smoke weed is that i'm getting into healthcare... and if i get caught my career is gone for good.
 

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If you went 23 years without smoking weed and without worrying about whether it makes you uncool, then why worry now?

I think it makes you look more cool to do your own thing and not follow the crowd.
 

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You shouldn't be worrying about what different types of girls will think of you if you do or don't smoke weed, or for that matter participate in any other activity. What you should be worrying about is what you prefer to do. If you want to smoke, then smoke and if girls don't like it then screw them. If you choose not to smoke, and some girls who do smoke might not like you cause you don't smoke. So in this situation just as in any other decision in your life, you should be focusing on what YOU want to do, and not on what is gain you acceptance from a certain group. Be your own person, and make your own decisions for YOU, do that while being open minded about all viewpoints and you not only are going to be happier with yourself, but more people of all types will respect you.
 

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how about you stop hanging with the scum of society and move on?

i've smoked weed in my life. its fine once a year or whatever, but smoking it every day numbs you and puts you back to sleep into the matrix. i like to accomplish things in life, not spend my days staring at a wall
 

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As a former stoner...some people will want you to smoke because they feel, that you feel that you are better than them if you don't. It's their own fear and inadaquacies speaking. All of my friends are stoners...I don't smoke anymore and they rib me and give me **** for it. I might take a toke every now and then..but honestly..I get more done in a day than they usually complete in a week.

As for girls who smoke...if she doesn't like it...forget about her. You are a man and she is there to get on your ship, you aren't there to jump on hers. If you smoke because she does, you are already following her leadership and not your own. What kind of man is that?

The other thing I noticed after years of smoking..is that it really tends to make men more pansy acting and AFC. Way too nervous, in your head and sensitive to strong emotion and more submissive to people with a stronger will. I lost a great girl because when I smoked I would act stupid and afc around her. I noticed that my friends who are still heavy smokers (and in their late 20s) tend to be major afc. Now I don't know which caused which in this chicken and egg scenario, but its just something I've noticed.

I feel firmer in my mind with out it. I feel like I have less doubt and I can focus more on what I'm doing.
 

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Thanks for the replies guys. I have tried it only a handful of times but I never did it on a regular basis. I don't plan on doing it again just to fit in with everyone else but I was just curious what everyones experiences were with that situation.
 
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