"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls who says they miss their EX, while with new BF

Von

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So a family member just said to me:

"You know I love my BF, but I really miss my ex"

What would you answer to that?

PS: girl was diagnosed with BDP at 15, she cheated on ex, ex might go to jail
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Billtx49

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Nothing you can say other than a sorry to hear that. The Ex obviously left a big imprint on her if she still thinks about and misses him while she’s with and loves another man…
Lewinsky has not completely gotten over Clinton yet either last I heard. It’s all about the depth of his emotional Imprint on her which directly effects her high score…
 
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The BF is unfortunately second best. He has a mountain to climb to reach the previous BF. There is a good chance he will never reach it. I almost feel women like this are doomed to be single for the rest of their lives.
 
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