Girls who reject and then come around

[anour]

Guys, what do you do in my situation. [M 25] been living in Europe/Holland for 6 years now, have a good physique, hit the gym 3/5 times a week, just finished undergrad and will be doing post-grad in a different city. I have hooked up with 5/6 girls over the years but mainly was focused on studies, getting out of debt, work etc.

My questions is, what do y’all do in instances when a girl rejects you, then after a while starts trying to get close to you? I always shut down their attempts and basically cold-ignore, which makes them intrigued initially, but they stop chasing after a while. For me, idgaf if she stops chasing, as i rarely feel that i want her again if she rejects me. However, it has been very dry the last year or two and dating life has been ****.

Context, i don’t have problems with approaching women and almost half of these women were cold-approach and the others either via side-jobs or a class.

 

[The Duke]

You ignore them and go find other women. It's either comply....or BYE! Don't make it harder than it is because you don't have options lined up.

Ask yourself, what would I do if I had 3 girls I was juggling? You wouldnt care two fuhks about this one.

 

[anour]

You ignore them and go find other women. It's either comply....or BYE! Don't make it harder than it is because you don't have options lined up.

Ask yourself, what would I do if I had 3 girls I was juggling? You wouldnt care two fuhks about this one.

Absolutely, couldn’t agree more, however i’d love if your clarify this point explicitly. If a woman rejects (non-compliance) then comes around trying to pull you (compliance), do you “bite”, do you let her do that or just focus your energy and attention completely on other chicks?

 

[Prepostereax]

Take it as it comes, and don't worry about the past behaviour, because essentially there is no history between you two.

I've never been in your specific situation (rejected by a girl who came around later), except with ex's.
I don't re-do ex's.

But it wouldn't bother me if a girl who initially rejected me later showed interest. It shows that now she views you in a different light.
Rejection can happen for any number of reasons, and most of them are to do with her.

It's a very female thing to be worked up about {Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned..}

 

[Clockwerk50]

Women, like anyone, can have changing emotions and interests. Someone might say they’re not interested today but feel differently later. That’s why I tend to pay more attention to actions than just words.

Personally, I don’t believe in burning bridges. When someone reconnects after some time, it might be because they’re seeking attention, validation, or simply had a change of heart. Maybe they realized they’re more interested after some distance, or something didn’t work out with someone else they were seeing. Sometimes, walking away from a "friend zone" situation can also shift how someone views you.

My general approach is this: if she starts texting first, it’s usually a sign that she’s interested and wants to see you. If that’s the case, after some initial chit-chat, respond with something like, “Hey, I’d love to see you. What’s your schedule like?” Set a date.

If she won’t commit to making plans, withdraw the offer. Say something like, “Alright, well, when you figure out your schedule, get in touch. I’ve got to run. Talk to you later,” and then stop texting.

This approach not only saves you time and energy, but it also helps you avoid getting strung along or stuck in the friend zone.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I asked out a coworker. She gave me a soft no. I asked her out again a few months later. She said ‘Yes’.
I had a Tinder date with a girl. It went well. Then she ghosted me. About a month later, I texted her. We were back on together.

Never say Never.

 

[SW15]

It's either comply....or BYE!

Best way to deal with women.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You could have been rejected because of poor timing or she was just not interested in you. If it has been some time since you last made a move then it doesn't hurt to try again to see if the timing is better. If she rejects you again then you know the answer and should write her off.

 

[Alvafe]

Absolutely, couldn’t agree more, however i’d love if your clarify this point explicitly. If a woman rejects (non-compliance) then comes around trying to pull you (compliance), do you “bite”, do you let her do that or just focus your energy and attention completely on other chicks?

if you ask me is she trying to feel good about herself, possible someone dumb her and now she try to pull you so she can still feel better, the reason you don't fall for it, and she moves explain that a lot, she will not get what she want from you so she moves, best thing you do really

 

[The Duke]

Absolutely, couldn’t agree more, however i’d love if your clarify this point explicitly. If a woman rejects (non-compliance) then comes around trying to pull you (compliance), do you “bite”, do you let her do that or just focus your energy and attention completely on other chicks?

I've handled it a few different ways over the years. They usually test the waters by sending a text. I will reply and play along to an extent if I didnt have anything better going on or not in a serious relationship.

The two girls that come to mind I met in a social circle. Both girls liked to dance and so did I. They would show interest, we would go out drinking and dancing and have a good time. I would pursue/escalate and they would go cold. Months later they would show interest again. Neither did I have sex with. It was fun so it wasnt a total waste but I wanted it to lead to sex . These girls liked the attention and validation I provided. They were also on/off with their boyfriends.
I finally told one that started showing interest again that she had her chance and I was no longer interested.

I've had a few girlfriends that rejected me and started showing interest long after the break up. Some I had sex with again, others just wanted attention and I was always half hearted about it and they realized that.

More often than not your energy and time is better spent pursuing girls that are more straightforward and not as confused about their interest in you.

 

[ValiantMale]

Very few if any women are worth giving a second chance unless you're down bad.