Girls who Kino

[zekko]

Ever notice how some girls use kino? Some girls will tend to touch you and others won't. I was just curious what is their motivation for this? Are they just touchy-feely as part of their personality or is it some manipulative tactic?

I tend to feel that guys who do this know what they are doing (trying to create attraction) - but I could be wrong about that too. What about girls? Are they trying to get attention or is it more innocent possibly?

I know some girls definitely know what they are doing and use it as a "weapon", but I'm not so sure about others. Do women tend to touch more than guys?

 

[sodbuster]

There is a range in everyone,but if they are touchyfeely,they are either into you or are AW's who just want to prove they still "got it" ASK and find out.

 

[f283000]

Be different from everyone else. If they happen to touch you tell them to "hands off the merchandise." They won't expect that thus it will shock them a bit and win you points.

 

[zekko]

If they happen to touch you tell them to "hands off the merchandise." They won't expect that thus it will shock them a bit and win you points.

I'm not looking to win points. I'm just curious about their motives.

If a guy touches a girl, we pretty much know what he wants, usually (although I know this gay guy who is very touchy-feely with the girls).
Do girls also touch to build attraction, or is it just the way they are? Girls will touch other girls a lot more than guys touch guys, for example (except for sports).

 

[starplayer]

It depends how well you know the girl. If it's a girl you've just started seeing or a girl you know is attracted to you, then it's time to escalate.

However, if it's a girl you don't know well or a girl you just met in a bar / club then it's more tricky. She COULD be attracted but you have to be careful because she could just be an attention wh0re. There's a lot of flirty girls who lead guys on and mess with them just to boost their ego and they know how to MIMIC real attraction.

They shamelessly flirt with guys they're not interested in, then later claim they're "just being friendly" when the guy shows interest back. Bullsh!t, they know exactly what they're doing and the unaware guy falls right into her trap.

If a girl I've just met gets touchy-feely straight away I tread carefully and don't touch back too easily. These types of girls usually have self-esteem problems and NEED every guy to flirt back with them.

This doesn't mean guys should be all reserved and never flirt back. But you've gotta be cautious when they come on strong at the start because it's hard to know her intentions.

 

[zekko]

If a girl I've just met gets touchy-feely straight away I tread carefully and don't touch back too easily. These types of girls usually have self-esteem problems and NEED every guy to flirt back with them.

You're right that attention hos definitely do this, they have it down to an art. But are most/all girls that are touchy-feely attention hos (or just hos)?
Maybe some are just open and are touchy because of their nurturing core? I'm skeptical of that however, and I'm thinking maybe they have at least a bit of the AW in them. They have to know that touch will affect a man.

Now they could be interested in you specifically, but that's a seperate case. I'm not talking about any particular girl, by the way, I'm just speaking generally. I've noticed that most girls who casually touch me will also go to the next guy and casually touch them. Do they know what they are doing and using it as a tactic? Or are they just friendly?

 

[starplayer]

Do they know what they are doing and using it as a tactic? Or are they just friendly?

They most likely know EXACTLY what they are doing. But they convince themselves they are "just being friendly" if they are called out on it. They rationalize it to stop themselves feeling guilty. You think a hot woman doesn't know the power a simple touch can have on the average man?

I was recently dealing with a girl who's a bit of an AW. She was attracted so I managed to fvck her. BUT I remember when I first met her a few years back when I was an AFC - she wasn't attracted to me back then but I thought she was at the time, because she was really flirty and touchy-feely with me and giving me "the look". She acted MORE flirty with me when she WASN'T interested than when she actually was!!!

When I went out with this girl I spent no money on her (though she tried it on). But she told me how she goes out to clubs and gets guys to buy drinks for her all night. But she said she "doesn't mean to do it". Absolute BS! She knows what she's doing!

They know what they're doing but a lot of the time they lie to other people but mostly they lie to THEMSELVES. I guess it helps them sleep at night.

It's our responsibiilty as men not to fall into their trap.

 

[zekko]

She acted MORE flirty with me when she WASN'T interested than when she actually was!!!

That's interesting, I wonder why that is? Maybe she realized how transparent her flirtiness could be and when she was really interested in you she didn't want you to think of her as an AW. Dropped some of her game and let you see more of the real her, perhaps?

I've known my share of AWs. I think I tend to attract them because I can spot them a mile away and so I don't give them any interest. That of course makes them try doubly hard to get my interest because they need to have every guy's attention. That's how they get their validation I guess. They're a strange breed, and usually they're quite good looking too. There may be unattractive AWs but we probably don't really notice them.

 

[CuriousGirl]

Be different from everyone else. If they happen to touch you tell them to "hands off the merchandise." They won't expect that thus it will shock them a bit and win you points.

Nah for me that would come across as unnecessarily cold, I'd think he wasn't interested or just a prick. Some people don't like to be touched, that's fair enough, but you can pick up on that and they wouldn't say something like that.

 

[CuriousGirl]

Ever notice how some girls use kino? Some girls will tend to touch you and others won't. I was just curious what is their motivation for this? Are they just touchy-feely as part of their personality or is it some manipulative tactic?

I tend to feel that guys who do this know what they are doing (trying to create attraction) - but I could be wrong about that too. What about girls? Are they trying to get attention or is it more innocent possibly?

I know some girls definitely know what they are doing and use it as a "weapon", but I'm not so sure about others. Do women tend to touch more than guys?

It all depends on the mood and the person they're with I think. And the kind of girl they are. I'm quite touchy-feely in general, like if I want someone's attention I'll say their name and touch their arm. But if I'm really stressed or angry then I won't want to be touched and I'm not touchy-feely.

If I like the guy I'm much more touchy-feely, but only if I'm getting signals he's interested in me. With a guy I am not interested I might flirt a little in a cheeky way but I'm not touchy feely...in fact if I'm being a bit flirty then I'll consciously not touch him. But I'm quite flirty in nature, I don't really mean to be...I flirt with girls without really realising. If I know the guy likes me but I don't like him then I'll be sure not to touch him or give off any signals that could be misconstrued as interest.

Also, I find the phrase "manipulative tactic" mildy insulting, it seems like your making out that all girls are cold and calculating

 

[catman]

It all depends on the mood and the person they're with I think. And the kind of girl they are. I'm quite touchy-feely in general, like if I want someone's attention I'll say their name and touch their arm. But if I'm really stressed or angry then I won't want to be touched and I'm not touchy-feely.

If I like the guy I'm much more touchy-feely, but only if I'm getting signals he's interested in me. With a guy I am not interested I might flirt a little in a cheeky way but I'm not touchy feely...in fact if I'm being a bit flirty then I'll consciously not touch him. But I'm quite flirty in nature, I don't really mean to be...I flirt with girls without really realising. If I know the guy likes me but I don't like him then I'll be sure not to touch him or give off any signals that could be misconstrued as interest.

Also, I find the phrase "manipulative tactic" mildy insulting, it seems like your making out that all girls are cold and calculating

Hunny the web site you should be on is called LOVE SHACK

 

[Amazing]

come on bud, at 49 I hope you'd know that women always know whats going on.. they touch when there is interest, sometimes that first touch is as obvious as that AFC first touch..

I used to have 3 rules in college

if she asks you questions
if she touches you
if she looks you deep in the eyes

she wants you.


edit - im probably one of the most touchy feely guys i know, and 95% of the time im touching the girl i want to F. the other 5% its written off to just making the other person feeling more comfortable, bringing closure.. if that helps, girls might do the same.

i think they still stand years later..

 

[Willis]

"I used to have 3 rules in college

if she asks you questions
if she touches you
if she looks you deep in the eyes

she wants you."

^^^ this is golden

 

[thecurtainfalls]

If a girl really is touching you a lot (reciprocal kino) and seems to enjoy your touch, this is a 95% sure indicator that she is at least open to the idea of seeing you in a sexual way. It doesn't mean the work is done by any means, but if she is putting her hands on you and doing some of the other good kino stuff, you can bet she doesn't find you repulsive, and it's up to you to not screw it up at that point.

The other 5% of this situation would be attention *****s or girls who see you as so safe that you might as well be gay. Use common sense and an analytical mind to figure out what each individual situation is actually reflecting.