"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls who just broke up with bf?

aWolf

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So guys what are your takes on this one ?

How to act in this situation. She's one of my distsnt social network friends. I dont want to be in a rebiund/ savior relationship.

Everyday, i'm learning new stuff in this forum. Some of them are hard truthes, byt at least its the truth
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What Are You Asking For?

aWolf said:
So guys what are your takes on this one ?
Rex's take is you need to add more details to your threads.
 

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Maximus Rex said:
Rex's take is you need to add more details to your threads.
Early 20's i see her a couple of times a week
She's been in a relationship for 1 year and a half. Had a decond relationship for 4 months ( this is the last one ) she's sad but not broken
 

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aWolf said:
Early 20's i see her a couple of times a week
She's been in a relationship for 1 year and a half. Had a decond relationship for 4 months ( this is the last one ) she's sad but not broken
She's probably broken too
 

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I can only speak from my past experience with my ex. She was with her ex for 8 years. I was so naive. At the time I didn't know that in and of itself was a huge red flag. I had a great time with her but she was a bit of a mess inside. I'd say you could call her broken. A lot of these women will heal but the timetable for this to happen is a lot longer than they think.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It depends on who did the breaking up. If she's the one who initiated it, she was probably out of the relationship mentally for MONTHS before she dumped him, meaning she'd be sad, but less of a chance she'd want to get back with him. If he's the one who dumped her, proceed with caution. Not saying it couldn't work, but you have to work your way in slooooooowly and not try to rush her into a new relationship right away. This means taking her out once a week but not calling/texting her all the time; no "future speak" (i.e. "we should plan to do this and this and this together"); and letting HER come to YOU with the various emotional statements (i.e. "so, what are we?" or "i feel this way about you, how do you feel about me?") Just be laid back and PATIENT, and you might have a change.

MIGHT...
 

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Induced Drag said:
I can only speak from my past experience with my ex. She was with her ex for 8 years. I was so naive. At the time I didn't know that in and of itself was a huge red flag. I had a great time with her but she was a bit of a mess inside. I'd say you could call her broken. A lot of these women will heal but the timetable for this to happen is a lot longer than they think.
I know that if I acted total AFC i would be her emotional tampon.
I dont honestly think the girl I'm talking about is broken. I've seen her when she really loved a guy

And this guy she's been with was a total chump
 

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Harry Wilmington said:
It depends on who did the breaking up. If she's the one who initiated it, she was probably out of the relationship mentally for MONTHS before she dumped him, meaning she'd be sad, but less of a chance she'd want to get back with him. If he's the one who dumped her, proceed with caution. Not saying it couldn't work, but you have to work your way in slooooooowly and not try to rush her into a new relationship right away. This means taking her out once a week but not calling/texting her all the time; no "future speak" (i.e. "we should plan to do this and this and this together"); and letting HER come to YOU with the various emotional statements (i.e. "so, what are we?" or "i feel this way about you, how do you feel about me?") Just be laid back and PATIENT, and you might have a change.

MIGHT...
She broke up with him. Told him they could be friends texting all the time and stuff like that, the stupid guy agreed to be friends with her

I'm not in a rush to bang her, I'm currently spinning 4 plates right now. You can say I'm addicted to experience every situation and how you manage it into your favor.

Thanks for the advice man, will do
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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