girls who give u the run around-no intention of meeting

[joe45]

dont you hate it when you get the run around with girls. an example. i met this girl at metrotown mall and later called her 3 days after to ask her out for coffee and she tells me shes busy and has to go to friend b day party, next week shes free, called again and samething-she has to study.
what do you do when a girl gives you the run around and delays it and has no intention of even meeting u up for a coffee date.

what can i do to cut it so i dont waste so much time calling and finding out shes busy again , and cant meet again and again. -getting the run around

 

[WorkingDJ]

Some chicks will just do this.

Delete that number and move on.

 

[badboyjmm]

You simply have to apply the 2 strike rule. The girl is not interested and you have to delete the number and MOVE ON. Everyone in this world hate flaking, but you gotta know how to deal with it. Delete the number, facebook, email, or whatever contact you have with her.

Sometimes, girls that are not interested don't wanna make you feel bad so when you go for the number, they give it to you knowing that they will never meet you. So try to get quality interactions with girls so that the possibility of a flake is reduced.

 

[ARrocket]

Everything the above two posters said is correct.

HOWEVER. You gotta understand that if you randomly get a chick's number and call her a few days later and ask her out on a date, it is MORE THAN LIKELY that she will not want to meet up with you. It's easier to give out her number than to reject you. Because when she gives it out, you go away. Unless she is REALLY into you, you'll almost always fail. Which is why the whole "it's a numbers game" thing is so convenient. Because if you repeat this process with 1,000 girls SOMEBODY is gonna want to fvck you, and you will get that date.

However, just because a girl isn't all that into you when she gave you the number, it doesn't mean all hope is lost. She may be SOMEWHAT attracted to you...just not enough to waste her valuable time going out with you. So, now what?

I've found it particularly helpful to game these girls a lil bit via text. There are lot's of great posts out there on how to do it. Basically, you're building a little bit of rapport and attraction over a few days/weeks. Don't be a chump texting her everyday about boring mundane stuff. Do it strategically. Random, funny texts. Sexual innuendos after awhile. Get her thinking about you. And THEN you push for the actual date. Usually just texting for this is fine as well.

Now for the disclaimers. No, this doesn't guarantee she still won't ignore you, but it definitely improves your odds. And it's still a numbers game, so keep finding new prospects.

Also, a woman's age is directly associated to how successful you'll be. If she's 50, she probably isn't big into texting. If she's 20, it's probably her world. Know your market.

A lot of guys say texting is for pvssies, but if done correctly, you will have great success. I only text girls, and it works for me. If you're under 25, you pretty much will HAVE to do almost all of your game via text (other than in person, that is).

Happy hunting.

 

[Jariel]

Although I definitely agree that you should move on, it's not always as straightforward as her not being attracted to you. Sometimes she's fixated on another guy and just can't move on; other times she's just not comfortable with a dating scenario. She may agree to it because she likes you and in her head it sounds like a good idea, but when the moment draws closer and the pressure mounts, she'll get cold feet. This usually happens if you have failed to build rapport with this girl.

A lot of guys here say you should never text or chat on the phone unless it's to arrange a date, whereas I totally disagree and think it's important to take the time to get to know a bit about each other and build comfort levels.

However, if she makes no effort to contact you, then DO NOT contact her again. 2 strikes is enough for anyone.

 

[jtlancer]

These days I'm one and done. No time to waste on flakes or
non responders.

 

[BBbardot]

dont you hate it when you get the run around with girls. an example. i met this girl at metrotown mall and later called her 3 days after to ask her out for coffee and she tells me shes busy and has to go to friend b day party, next week shes free, called again and samething-she has to study.
what do you do when a girl gives you the run around and delays it and has no intention of even meeting u up for a coffee date.

what can i do to cut it so i dont waste so much time calling and finding out shes busy again , and cant meet again and again. -getting the run around

it's just a girl that can't say no, just drop it

OR

she was busy and didn't have time to wax her legs and p... ( clrealy possible, it's a muh more usual reason to not see a guy than you can imagine. Waxing takes ages and it put waxs everywhere, it's a pain. So when you're super busy...)

 

[AAAgent]

i doubt its the waxing. If a girl really didn't wax her legs or ***** she would probably still meet you, kiss and w/e but would resist like a mofo when u tried to get her pants off. Happened to me a few times when a girl had her period. After like 3 times trying and her stopping me she goes...

"i can't today.....its my week."

Its more likely as you said one of the girls who can't say no. They get scared and they think the fastest way of getting you to go away is to give you the number so u can leave and then ignore you.

 

[nismo-4]

Order in the court!

A girl knows whether or not she wants you within the first 5 minutes. If she wants you, she will make it known and move mountains to see you. If she don't want you she's constantly wondering how much more time until she gets to leave. These days, every woman has a boyfriend and an infinite number of ways to reject men. Women do have the choosing power. It's even worse that there are so many PUA books out there and a lot of people are buying them. Now that a lot of men are using these PUA tactics, women's defenses are rising even more than ever!

What it boils down to is this; You need to make her pu$$y tingle. You've always got competition from other men, even if the woman's ugly or 73. Any kind of woman can flake on you or reject you easily. The only thing you can do is move on and try again.

Case closed.

 

[runner83]

As a minimum you have to apply the 2 strike rule, especially for cold approach girls.

Link is here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154043

So give them 2 chances (maximum, cut back to 1 if you have lots of options) and then move on.

Also, something I've noticed is that the speed at which a girl responds to a message from you is a fairly good indicatori of how into you she is. This obviously is distorted by the AW factor in some cases...

 

[bigneil]

Unless you at least give them a cheek kiss, don't even bother calling. The cheek kiss will tell you immediately whether they are worth calling.

 

[Huffman]

Hehe so what will the cheek kiss tell you?

BTW. can anyone point me to some great articles about Rapport? My Kino and Escalating has become pretty good and I get fumbling&makeouts all the time, but when I contact them again I'm getting flaked on alot. It's as if the attraction completely vanishes when I'm not standing next to them.

 

[mustfirstregister]

I think u should keep calling her. This is the kind of girl who likes to test your perseverance.

 

[Jariel]

BTW. can anyone point me to some great articles about Rapport? My Kino and Escalating has become pretty good and I get fumbling&makeouts all the time, but when I contact them again I'm getting flaked on alot. It's as if the attraction completely vanishes when I'm not standing next to them.

I've always been very good with rapport and remember writing some tips on the subject some years ago. Hope these help...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=51178
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=93920

 

[Huffman]

Thanks Jariel! These really hit the spot. I've quite enjoyed reading your stuff recently, because there is fresh and interesting content, instead of the usual "be confident and dominant" pep talk.

By the way, do you still wholeheartedly support what you wrote many years ago? I know I can't, so I'm curious

 

[Jariel]

Thanks Jariel! These really hit the spot. I've quite enjoyed reading your stuff recently, because there is fresh and interesting content, instead of the usual "be confident and dominant" pep talk.

By the way, do you still wholeheartedly support what you wrote many years ago? I know I can't, so I'm curious

Thanks Huffman, I still find a lot of what I've written in the past to be true, but if I'm honest there are many of my older posts I wish I could go back and delete, especially those written during phases of bitterness or oneitis. I cringe at some of them.

But the point of the forum is that we gain new experiences, learn new things and our beliefs evolve, so I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing if we can't support our older posts. Just shows we are progressing.