"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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girls who dance with you at clubs and then leave?

garruk

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i dont know if this is only me but sometimes i feel like ill be at the club and ill start grinding on a girl, she#ll get really really into it for like a good 10 minutes but then she#ll suddenly just get up and walk away. like shes broken from a trance or soemthing lol. i dont know.. is this some sort of test?


im more just interested in whether you guys have experienced this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nothing more than she are there for fun and attention...
...some may be open to you making advances if you have reasonable (dancefloor) game

if they are getting into it, they and escalate, some who are just there for fun will move away, some will kisss you for fun then move off, some you may be able to close.
 

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Well, it's dancing. It's not a marriage contract. I've experienced it plenty. It's a night club, so dancing is supposed to be fun. Not necessarily a guarantee of sex.

No biggie.
 

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Happens all the time, I've been wondering about this for years too. Usually, if I notice her drifiting away and the musics too loud. I'll just slip my phone infront of her chest and spin her around, do all sorts of crazy stuff and she knows what the score is.

Then I'LL walk away, not her. Sometimes it's good to write up a text on you're phone and show her (if musics too loud) sop she gets the deal.
 

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Make sure you walk away before she does so she will think what you're thinking right now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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in the 10 minutes that you danced with her did you say anything to her? you cant expect a girl to dance with some random guy the whole night unless shes really feeling you. talk to her and get her number just dont dance.
 

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Iceberg has a point here.

What you need to do is make a move on these chicks. And do it before the lights come on. You still have to initiate and escalate. You have balls don't you? Whether or not you do, Judge Nismo-4 wants you to read my sig and apply it. That's my ruling.

Case closed.
 

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CaptainJ said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3S0h3yzueE

This is why girls dance with you then walk away.
Haha! Well, that's never happened to me....yet.

Some girls are at clubs to have a good time
Some are attention ***** who take pleasure from shooting guys down
Some may like to hook up

% of the above may vary.

You've obviously got to try and make some conversation, but that can be tough in a noisy environment.

Nismo-4 is right though. Nothing will happen (apart from some occasions) unless you make it.
 

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kingsam said:
if they are getting into it, they and escalate, some who are just there for fun will move away, some will kisss you for fun then move off, some you may be able to close.
Pretty much this.

OP if they move away after a few songs its because they just wanted to dance, they're moving away because they don't want to mislead you into thinking it was anything more. So don't worry about it.
 

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escaleraroyal

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Once a chick was grabbing my balls while I was grinding her.
 
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escaleraroyal said:
Once a chick was grabbing my calls while I was grinding her.
You were calling her while you were dancing with her?
Not sure I'd be so proud of that.
 

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i have to admit, and it burns me but , theyre there to hav "fun" even when thy know there are guys who want a 1 night stand, i always ask myself what the hell they see on those places its always the same..everywhere music and drinks, whatsthat special, ah and is very expensive
 

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FastMen said:
i have to admit, and it burns me but , theyre there to hav "fun" even when thy know there are guys who want a 1 night stand, i always ask myself what the hell they see on those places its always the same..everywhere music and drinks, whatsthat special, ah and is very expensive
this is simplifying it a bit but kinda true!

girls go to night clubs for fun, attention, 'harmless' flirting (in their eyes) and free drinks if they are lucky (or hot/AW's)

guys go to drink and pull (but rarely do)
 

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Girls in the clubs are really hard to bed nowadays.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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