Girl's toxic friends

[Hal9000]

If she has crazy racist friends who she seems to let lead her through life then I'd run in the opposite direction, unless you have some kind of insatiable desire to deal with this POS friend for the rest of your life.

 

[Gamisch]

I disagree with the consensus in this thread.

Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are -the bible, very long B.C-

I've learned the hard way that the friends she keeps are EXTREMELY important to her. Those are her life advisors, and yes they are an extension of who she is. There are things being discussed that you have ZERO idea of, and her friends will know what she REALLY wants ,what really makes her wet ect. Oftentimes her friend's (negative)behaviour towards you is a reflection of the conversations they've had but she never told you about.

Nobody wants to "build a dam that's leaking" and constantly be running around with buckets of water to keep the ship from sinking because of her toxic friends ..cmon now fellas..

If she hypothetically has to kill either you or her best toxic drug addicted racist friend geuss who will die? Yes you.

You can have some fun as long as it lasts, but I'm willing to bet the farm on the fact that eventually her toxic friend will do something that will ruin your relationship( and probably instigatedby your own GF!!!). A girls night out, a vacation, simply introducing her to " a man that REALLY fits her well" ( not you) ect.

We can agree to disagree but my real exp thaught me that eventually a woman's friends will win. Ideally her friends are also YOUR friends or at least have some form of respect for you and who you are as a person. If that not the case you're royally fecked..

 

[sceneparade]

I disagree with the consensus in this thread.

Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are -the bible, very long B.C-

I've learned the hard way that the friends she keeps are EXTREMELY important to her. Those are her life advisors, and yes they are an extension of who she is. There are things being discussed that you have ZERO idea of, and her friends will know what she REALLY wants ,what really makes her wet ect. Oftentimes her friend's (negative)behaviour towards you is a reflection of the conversations they've had but she never told you about.

Nobody wants to "build a dam that's leaking" and constantly be running around with buckets of water to keep the ship from sinking because of her toxic friends ..cmon now fellas..

If she hypothetically has to kill either you or her best toxic drug addicted racist friend geuss who will die? Yes you.

You can have some fun as long as it lasts, but I'm willing to bet the farm on the fact that eventually her toxic friend will do something that will ruin your relationship( and probably instigatedby your own GF!!!). A girls night out, a vacation, simply introducing her to " a man that REALLY fits her well" ( not you) ect.

We can agree to disagree but my real exp thaught me that eventually a woman's friends will win. Ideally her friends are also YOUR friends or at least have some form of respect for you and who you are as a person. If that not the case you're royally fecked..

Everything you said it spot on. They ARE extremely important to her. She does seek their counsel on everything. If her friend told her she cannot date "white guys" then going forward that is the advice she will follow, even if she was - according to her own racist friend - really into me.

Having said that, there are times where, even though she knows her friends don't want her dating a white guy, she has gone out with me again, and dressed her up sexily for the outing.

I am unsure of what her friends would say, but it is not good. I do know that, before we went on first date - and on the dates, she did not think my thinking was "weird." Her friends have since told her that my bluntness and straight-talking is not normal thinking. Now she has taken on that belief and goes along with it. In addition, since her male friends have discovered we dates, they have gone out of their way to make my life hell - sometimes blanking me, sometimes calling me insulting names. Then they forget the whole situation and start people polite, before being nasty again.

The thing is: this so called friend is single, and has been for several years. I asked my friend and he advised that people can she she is a nutcase and hence guys don't date her other than to pump and dump. Do guys see her as a nutcase? do they see she is a racist" Will the girl I asked out ever realise the reality?

 

[Gamisch]

Everything you said it spot on. They ARE extremely important to her. She does seek their counsel on everything. If her friend told her she cannot date "white guys" then going forward that is the advice she will follow, even if she was - according to her own racist friend - really into me.

Having said that, there are times where, even though she knows her friends don't want her dating a white guy, she has gone out with me again, and dressed her up sexily for the outing.

I am unsure of what her friends would say, but it is not good. I do know that, before we went on first date - and on the dates, she did not think my thinking was "weird." Her friends have since told her that my bluntness and straight-talking is not normal thinking. Now she has taken on that belief and goes along with it. In addition, since her male friends have discovered we dates, they have gone out of their way to make my life hell - sometimes blanking me, sometimes calling me insulting names. Then they forget the whole situation and start people polite, before being nasty again.

The thing is: this so called friend is single, and has been for several years. I asked my friend and he advised that people can she she is a nutcase and hence guys don't date her other than to pump and dump. Do guys see her as a nutcase? do they see she is a racist" Will the girl I asked out ever realise the reality?

Just be careful.

I don't and can't hang with a male cough potato who has zero ambitions. One of my childhood friends turned into this, thus we had to split ways. Sad but true.

Now imagine having a friend who holds you back, messes up your relationships but yet YOU keep him around...that's on YOU. Never forget that despite your younger age yall arr still adults..

Her friend might view you as "just another one" instead of " the one". So keep this in the back of your mind going forward.