Girls That Save Your Number For Years, Then Contact You...

[KingofHearts]

How many of you get tracked down by girls years later?

I would think if its some girl that you saw only a month ago, then maybe they just went thru the phone lineup and are back to the top of the list. But a girl that's kept your number for years?
I do have to say that most of these girls and I did have a good connection at the time. Some of them I didn't even date, but most of them were plates at some point. Hung out for a while. And just drifted apart. Sometimes I nexted them. Many times I have to ask who they are because I deleted their number.

Its just weird to me because I don't keep anyone's number if I don't currently hang out with them. I do keep business contacts for a longer time, but not girls I've dated. And I don't really see guys chasing me down years later, or if they do, their intentions are clear as day. I will say there are a handful of girls that I rejected and they are contacting me again after 2-3 years. But they make it obvious that they're making another try at going out with me. Other girls are not so transparent. What's a girl's motives for wanting to catch up?

Today I had girl contact me after 5 years of not seeing each other. She was a classmate in college, then we hung out a few times after she graduated. Another girl I knew from high school, then we hung out a lot the next year or two. But that's still at least 4-5 years of no contact. She did text me one time a couple years ago, but I was married at the time and ignored it.

Did I really leave a mark on these girls or is this pretty common for people in their 20's?

 

[Mr. Goods]

How many of you get tracked down by girls years later?

I would think if its some girl that you saw only a month ago, then maybe they just went thru the phone lineup and are back to the top of the list. But a girl that's kept your number for years?
I do have to say that most of these girls and I did have a good connection at the time. Some of them I didn't even date, but most of them were plates at some point. Hung out for a while. And just drifted apart. Sometimes I nexted them. Many times I have to ask who they are because I deleted their number.

Its just weird to me because I don't keep anyone's number if I don't currently hang out with them. I do keep business contacts for a longer time, but not girls I've dated. And I don't really see guys chasing me down years later, or if they do, their intentions are clear as day. I will say there are a handful of girls that I rejected and they are contacting me again after 2-3 years. But they make it obvious that they're making another try at going out with me. Other girls are not so transparent. What's a girl's motives for wanting to catch up?

Today I had girl contact me after 5 years of not seeing each other. She was a classmate in college, then we hung out a few times after she graduated. Another girl I knew from high school, then we hung out a lot the next year or two. But that's still at least 4-5 years of no contact. She did text me one time a couple years ago, but I was married at the time and ignored it.

Did I really leave a mark on these girls or is this pretty common for people in their 20's?

This has happened with me before, except that it was more "months," not really years. What I've learned, and what some here on the board have agreed with, is that these girls are bored, or their "Plan A" guy didn't work out - making you the backup. This isn't always the case, but a girl contacting you out of the blue like this suggests that their options are dry and they are trying to kickstart something from awhile back.

This isn't always the case, but it seems to be that way more often than not. If it were me, I'd either let it go (if I just didn't care anymore) or I'd maintain the contact a little bit - short notes/texts, keep phone calls really short, etc. Most importantly, do not go through great lengths to meet with these girls, make them come to you (or atleast something that shows they are actually interested and not just yanking your chain).

 

[PapiChulo]

Thats weird. Even a year is a HUGE amount of time. People change and grow over time, especially at that age. I dont even contact my relatives anymore who havent been in touch for more than 2 years.

 

[KingofHearts]

Thats weird. Even a year is a HUGE amount of time. People change and grow over time, especially at that age. I dont even contact my relatives anymore who havent been in touch for more than 2 years.

Yeah see that's I was thinking. i don't really have any family that I call on the phone besides immediate family. But I can't remember the last time I contacted an old friend unless it was for work or something.

 

[PapiChulo]

Sometimes they wonder what could have happened making them contact you after all this time, especially if somebody did mention about you and about your availability.

Some women are just plain dumb and reserve the right to walk into your life at any point.

 

[KingofHearts]

This has happened with me before, except that it was more "months," not really years. What I've learned, and what some here on the board have agreed with, is that these girls are bored, or their "Plan A" guy didn't work out - making you the backup. This isn't always the case, but a girl contacting you out of the blue like this suggests that their options are dry and they are trying to kickstart something from awhile back.

This isn't always the case, but it seems to be that way more often than not. If it were me, I'd either let it go (if I just didn't care anymore) or I'd maintain the contact a little bit - short notes/texts, keep phone calls really short, etc. Most importantly, do not go through great lengths to meet with these girls, make them come to you (or atleast something that shows they are actually interested and not just yanking your chain).

Good advice.

The girl that texted me today - turns out she has a bf and they're buying a house together! If I'm in a situation like that, last thing I'm thinking about is some chick from college. What could her MO possibly be?

I will say, I still find it encouraging when people from my past come back and remember some vivid details about me, its like I really meant something to them. It makes me want to make more connections because I realize that its not a waste of time after all.