I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yea, but if you know about her and her dating history and saw all of the guys were younger....None were older or about the same age.Dannyrt34 said:yea there is significant meaning.. it means she found somebody she likes and that guy happens to be younger than her.
ahh, someone mentioned this to me before and I thought it was a pretty legit answer. Maybe it roots from her relations with her father?Warrior74 said:control issues could be the culprit. the question is, not if they are younger, but if they are AFC or not.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Oh yea. Well from the last chick I dated, her last ex I knew for sure was a total AFC.Warrior74 said:the question is, not if they are younger, but if they are AFC or not.
I think he specifically said that the girl has dated numerous guys younger than her. So I don`t see how its a special guy that just happens to be younger than her as the reason.Metaphysical said:There's nothign wrong with a woman dating younger or older than her. Attraction is a strange thing and if she genuinely feels attracted to a man, she won't care how old or young he is.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I disagree. If your example is an exaggeration, I dont understand how it serves the purpose of proving your point. How bout something more realistic. Would a gr.10 girl want to date a guy in gr.9 as opposed to a guy in gr.12. Even if they were both cool guys, the gr.12 guy would have more experience, higher social status in the school, not to mention maturity (There are exceptions, but as a general rule, I think its pretty straight forward).Metaphysical said:Think of the reasons why a woman would date a younger guy versus an older guy.
Let's exaggerate the differences and compare a 20 year old with a 40 year old.
What does the 20 year old have that the older guy doesn't:
- he's more spontaneous
- physically more attractive
- usually better shape
- has a fun vibe
- very energetic in the bedroom
etc.. etc.. so its very likely that this girl is attracted to those kinds of traits. as long as you are that type of a person, there should be no problems.
You highschool kids should stick to the highschool forum. This is the real world here.pg_lost said:I disagree. If your example is an exaggeration, I dont understand how it serves the purpose of proving your point. How bout something more realistic. Would a gr.10 girl want to date a guy in gr.9 as opposed to a guy in gr.12. Even if they were both cool guys, the gr.12 guy would have more experience, higher social status in the school, not to mention maturity (There are exceptions, but as a general rule, I think its pretty straight forward).