Girls telling you that she is sick of guys hitting on her?

[Firefly]

Hey all,

I am a guy who meets a lot of backpackers and visitors to our city (I live in Australia).

Met a 19 yr old German girl who was a HB9 a few weeks ago. The first time I met up with her, she kissed me on the lips and told me it was the "European way of toasting". She also told me that she always had lots of her male friends hitting on her, and wanted to find guys who just wanted to be friends.

I hung out with her a few times, but never made a move on her because:
a. She told me she had a boyfriend who was coming to join her in Melbourne soon:
b. Was pursuing some other options, which worked out quite well for me.

Recently, she has seemed to lose interest in hanging out with me. She has also revealed that she is dating/sleeping with other guys, even going on a date five days before her boyfriend is due to arrive in Australia.

Anyway, while I am not that upset about missing out on a chance to sleep with this one, I was trying to see if I can learn something from the experience. What, as a DJ, would be the best way to respond to a girl who makes comments like "I always have lots of male friends hitting on me, and want to find guys who just want to be friends"?

 

[SharinganUser]

The other night I was chilling with this woman at the bar. After a while I told her that I thought she was hot. She turned a way and said "All of the guys say that." I didn't compliment her the rest of the night. Then I banged her.

Basicly what she is telling you is that she wants someone that is a challenge.

 

[legolas]

What, as a DJ, would be the best way to respond to a girl who makes comments like "I always have lots of male friends hitting on me, and want to find guys who just want to be friends"?

You don't buy it mate!! It's all BS and it's her way of dealing with the subconscious guilt she feels when she sleeps with other guys.

 

[Firefly]

You don't buy it mate!! It's all BS and it's her way of dealing with the subconscious guilt she feels when she sleeps with other guys.

Sorry, I am not sure I understand this point. Could you expand on it?

 

[DJDamage]

I was trying to see if I can learn something from the experience

Recently, she has seemed to lose interest in hanging out with me. She has also revealed that she is dating/sleeping with other guys, even going on a date five days before her boyfriend is due to arrive in Australia.

When it comes to women you don't know, never pay attention to what women say but look at their action's first because actions speak's louder then words.

The first time I met up with her, she kissed me on the lips and told me it was the "European way of toasting".

See right there, is the first indication that she wasn't being truthful. You should have esscalated the situation instead of believing her, instead of becoming her friend whom she got bored with. This girl left her boyfriend at home so she could go around Australia and fvck other guys. When her boyfriend arrives in Australia, he won't know a thing.

 

[DonJuan11]

What, as a DJ, would be the best way to respond to a girl who makes comments like

"I always have lots of male friends hitting on me"
"That's unfortunate. Would you like to grab a coffee?"


"I want to find guys who just want to be friends"
"Lovely. Would you like to grab a coffee?"

It all depends how smart you are and can turn the subject around

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I agree with DonJuan11 BUT, this is just my opinion.. I'd say "Let's get some coffee." Instead of "would you like.." Because, to me asking "would you like" makes her think if she wants to or not. But, telling her lets do this. She is put on the spot and they usually just go with your flow.

Maybe, I'm wrong but, telling someone we are gonna do this. They usually agree. (In my experience)

 

[TheRealSupreme]

Yeah learn to see through women's words. If you had of you could of been hitting that right now instead of falling for the same lame tests that she dishes out.

And the girl is a ho bag. She has no morals. She is using other guys for fun while she is waiting for her man to arrive. What does that tell you.

Think with your little brain in your head not the big brain down bellow fella.

 

[snowdog]

What she said:
"I always have lots of male friends hitting on me, and want to find guys who just want to be friends"?

Translation:
I'm tired of these AFC chumps hitting on me. I hereby challenge you to turn me on.

 

[TheRealSupreme]

What she said:
"I always have lots of male friends hitting on me, and want to find guys who just want to be friends"?

Translation:
I'm tired of these AFC chumps hitting on me. I hereby challenge you to turn me on.

Try this translation. I think I am hot shyt that is why I am even telling you this and if your man enough then you may get some othewise you will end up as my personal lacky to lick my boots that have broken the ballz of bigger men out there.

Any ho that brags about always getting hit on is looking for star attention.

 

[snowdog]

Word, yo.

lol, sorry, I couldn't resist. That's also a good translation.

 

[DonGorgon]

She is sick of guys who are not brad pitt hitting on her. women have too many options so they get too picky...

 

[snowdog]

Yea, brad pitt current and previous biotches are amazing

 

[DJVladdy]

"She has also revealed that she is dating/sleeping with other guys"

how does this fit with "sick of guys hitting on her". And "has a boyfriend"
or I'm reading this wrong?

 

[DonGorgon]

"She has also revealed that she is dating/sleeping with other guys"

how does this fit with "sick of guys hitting on her". And "has a boyfriend"
or I'm reading this wrong?

lol....she is being picky and hates when guys she doesnt like hit on her...lol

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Part of her likes the attention she's getting. She'd be so worried why guys aren't hitting on her. Also, yea...the guys are just hitting on her, not approaching her. There's a certain difference. Approaching is flat out going up to her, while hitting on can be from talking from the side, saying hi, whistling, etc. So yea, she's tired of chumps/AFC/No good for nothings hitting on here. But she'd love getting approached by a stud/playboy.

Plus girls sometimes like something but feel "Socially conditioned" to criticize it. As Player Supreme said, look at the actions, not the words. Its like a girl calling a guy who picks up women at the club constantly, creepy. If she honestly thought that way, she'd be weirded out and not want to talk about it...but no...she is trying to criticize him with effort, which means she likes mentioning him, thus liking him....her actions really do the talking(Body language and how she talks about him) vs. Just what she is talking about.

Its funny how much conflict runs in a girl's mind lol.

 

[MisterMcGee]

Its like a girl calling a guy who picks up women at the club constantly, creepy. If she honestly thought that way, she'd be weirded out and not want to talk about it...but no...she is trying to criticize him with effort

Rung true like a churchbell to me.

Ditto for below, but that's obvious anyways.

 

[chinwaggler]

If a girl shows signs of being up her own arse or an AW, then neg them

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

or treat them non-seriously and tease them as if they silly and crazy.

 

[slickaz]

yo im in sydney too man..
North Sydney 2060.

holla at me sometime..

as for the chic..as stated..dont listen to what they say..watch for actions.

before i left NY i was chilling with a friend of a friend who was Miss New York not long ago and a celeb nowish...
she kept this high self esteem about her during our whole convo, talkin about how shes so well off with biz ventures etc and that i should ask around about her to get to know more if i wanted..i said back to her "Why should i try to go find smtn about you that i know you wanna tell me anyway?"
she was surprised
so i said after "besides, if it dont make me money i dont do it..."
soon after she asked for my number and i wrote about tapin her on here a while ago..

anyway dont listen to what females say bru...just act confident and be a challenge...women are humans too, just with too much confidence and love to be chased..but when they dont get chased, they wanna know why! why?!

another example...i got intro'd to a chic at a party not long before i left, we chilled and had a good time at the party, but i think thats because she was slightly drunk and she saw me pull up in my merc so she couldnts top talkin about the merc..
anyway 2 weeks later i see her at another party, this time she was acting real aloof..
so i didnt even go say hi to her just ignored her..
then a mutual friend tried intro'ing us to each other..
and she was like oh yeah ive met slickaz before somewhere..
i said smtn like oh really?i dont remember..but i meet a ton of people everyweek...pleasure meetin you"
she got so mad...asking me how i could forget..
and she tried jogging my memory to mke me remember..
anyway in her car when i was hookin up i told her i remembered her coz of her pretty lips..lol.melt..
anyway dont chase...she'll chase you..girls like that do that