Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls telling me idk how to flirt?

Jokerlsk

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This past year a lot of stuff has gone on. I've drastically improved my social circles, and have mad a lot of new friends. more particularly girls. I guess my big issue was growing up and learning to accept myself. I think i've done a pretty good job of that as of late, and once you accept yourself, other people will accept you. The only problem is that I feel like i'm becoming more and more afc. Not anything drastic, like calling everyday, or buying gifts, etc, etc. I'm actually not interested in anyone at the moment, and i think a couple of girls are surprisingly interested in me, but I don't like these girls. What i discovered i'm good at is conversation, and that's what i am. I'm a conversationalist. I can go in public, see a stranger, and befriend that stranger. I used to not have the confidence to do this, but after a while I just took the dive. All of my friends say I'm charismatic, but my best friend that's a girl told me earlier that, "I dont know how to flirt." I thought this was weird, but i went over it in my head and it's true. I really don't.

I talk to girls, I get to know girls, I help girls, but i don't go out of my way. I just like helping people. Like if a girl is doing hw and needs help, i'll go over and teach her how to do it, and people really appreciate that, but i honestly don't know how to put the moves on someone. I used to try REALLY hard, and no success came to it, so one day I said "Fvck it!" and just gave up all together. I decided that I was going to try to develop friendship with people instead, and it's paid off, but i feel like it's time to step it up. I treat every girl i know like my sister, who's only a year younger than me, so i'm always look at as a sort of brother to girls. I've even been told that before.

The first step is shedding that "big brother" persona i have going for me, and I also need to learn where to draw the line. I"m not an ******* so when i say some stuff, girls take offense to it. I told one of my friends that she needed to wear more makeup one day, and i told another girl she was 'kinda big' too. How do i go about doing this? To me, the whole kino thing make me uncomfortable, and to be honest, the actual thought of having a girl friend makes me uncomfortable. I keep making excuses telling myself i'm not mature enough for anything of the sort, but I know that these excuses will hold me back.

I always thought that flirting was indirectly saying, "I like you" and I'm pretty terrible at conveying that idea. How do I get better at it? What are some examples. I always insult whoever it is, and feel like an ******* afterwards.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jokerlsk

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You're right, my demeanor is just way too serious all the time. People view me as a work first, play later type of guy, and I guess i honestly am. I am friendly, and I am playful, but I always make sure i keep things platonic. Intimacy is just somethign i don't understand
 

I'm in the Mood

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Okay flirting is really easy...

#1 rule: DON'T be afraid to push boundaries!

Kino - breaking the "touch" barrier
Negging - breaking the "nice guy" barrier
Sexual Innuendo - breaking the "I'm too AFC to talk about sex!" barrier (This is sexual tension and it is essential.)

****y Comedy:
Excellent way to display your finest traits and have fun with it!
(****y comedy is arrogance + humor, check out some of David DeAngelo's stuff if you want to find out more.)

Teasing:
Bust her balls, have fun with it, be playful. Shows you're not afraid to be yourself and is an opportunity to DHV and make her feel insecure.


Make sure you're not afraid of what "society" thinks of you.
Igetit! was just telling me that offending a girl and making her mad doesn't kill attraction. This is where negging, teasing and making fun of her comes in. She'll see that you have the balls to do what other guys are afraid of doing, and this is very attractive.

Don't go overboard!!!
Cruelty and hatred DON'T work (unless you're already in a relationship, then it might have some effect.)
Saying "I think you're the ugliest woman alive," or "you're worthless" is going a bit too far in my opinion.

On the other hand, I believe that "You too ugly" with a ****y smile :)D) will work very well because she'll be confused whether you think she's ugly or not.

Hope this helped.
 

Tyson420

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I dunno, someone not knowing how to FLIRT is pretty serious. You need to start asking people about their impression of you, what they think of you. This information is valuable, trust me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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