Girls tell me I'm attractive but...

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Ok I want you to try something to get over your fear of asking girls out.
Tomorrow I want you to ask one random girl out, but you're not looking for a "yes."

Prove to yourself that you can ask a girl out by asking one out without caring what her answer is.
Once your fear is gone, read the bible and find out how to properly ask out a girl by inviting her to hang out with you.. or something.

Hey what could it hurt? Try out your confidence, maybe you'll even get a yes

 

[Supremo]

Ok I want you to try something to get over your fear of asking girls out.
Tomorrow I want you to ask one random girl out, but you're not looking for a "yes."

Prove to yourself that you can ask a girl out by asking one out without caring what her answer is.
Once your fear is gone, read the bible and find out how to properly ask out a girl by inviting her to hang out with you.. or something.

Hey what could it hurt? Try out your confidence, maybe you'll even get a yes

Um... GWA I see where you're going with this. But I was under the impression that Asdfghjklll liked the touchy-feely girl.

Maybe I'm wrong?

That girl is giving you IOI's off the ying-yang. There's no need for her to calm down the flirtiness with you unless that's how she is with everyone. If that's the case, just realize she's always like that, and she's probably not as into you as she's portraying... and then take GWA's advice.

If she ISN'T like that with everyone, then dude, just ask her out. Doesn't have to be fancy. After you guys are flirting and getting "touchy-feely" with eachother, say:
"Hey, you know, lets chill this weekend. I'm finally free and it'd be cool to hang outside of school."
This is a very inconspicuous way of asking her out because
a) by saying "lets chill" rather than "will you go out with me", you're conveying that you're not SUPER into her... just enough to want to hang. Not needy, in other words.
b) By saying that you're "finally free", it shows that you're a busy guy and the opportunity to spend time with you is a rare occasion. She'll feel more compelled to accept this way.
c) By saying you want to "hang outside of school", it's showing you're interested in her, but in a way that almost makes her have to qualify herself to you.

Try it out hombre.

 

[Bvbidd]

No, actually have something planned and then ask her along. Asking her to chill is an automatic flake.

 

[Supremo]

No, actually have something planned and then ask her along. Asking her to chill is an automatic flake.

You sure you're talking about high school here? I can see how having a definite plan is a good thing, but Asdfghjklll said he's horrible with girls for some reason. I'm guessing body language, tonality of voice, etc. Girls would be disinclined to acquiesce to his request (heh) if they felt he was creepin on her.

So basically, Asdfghjklll, you got two sides of the spectrum. Direct or indirect.
The red pill, or the blue pill.
Are you willing to see how far down the rabbit hole goes?

 

[SinJester]

Don't listen to me on this post.

Asking girls out in high school seems kinda whack. Am I the only one who thinks so? Theres like 2 places to go (unless your in a city, maybe then...) Mcdonalds or the movies. Both places are kinda ****ty 'dates'. None of the guys I know who have got gfs do any of this kinda stuff.

 

[GaryUranga]

if the chicks interested in the first place she wont flake if you ask her to chill, make her interested guys..

 

[Asdfghjklll]

You sure you're talking about high school here? I can see how having a definite plan is a good thing, but Asdfghjklll said he's horrible with girls for some reason. I'm guessing body language, tonality of voice, etc. Girls would be disinclined to acquiesce to his request (heh) if they felt he was creepin on her.

So basically, Asdfghjklll, you got two sides of the spectrum. Direct or indirect.
The red pill, or the blue pill.
Are you willing to see how far down the rabbit hole goes?

i think you guys misunderstood me. i'm usually good around girls and trust me i know how to flirt but when it comes to a girl that i actually LIKE i freeze up

 

[Alkali]

Who doesn't? Start with (cute) girls you do not like.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

oh lol I missed the part where he said there's one he flirts with that he wants to ask out.

so theres this little thing called confidence, heres a good definition:

"Belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him."

you can only get over this fear if you do what you'd normally do anyway regardless of whether you're afraid or not. I used to be afraid A LOT and it would take me maybe days to do something. The best way to do this is to just do it, and I want to quote pook on this classic rule:

"Rejection is better than regret."

Think of it like this, if you already had enough balls to surpass your fear and ask a chick you like out, you wouldn't have this problem now, because you'd either be in a relationship (and possibly have other problems ) or she would have said no.

But now, your fear is causing regret, which is making you feel bad about yourself like you can't do this.
It's simple really, and this is what I do:

Do something that you're afraid of because you're afraid of it.

You conquer this fear and it feels sooo good afterwards haha. You feel like you've grown some balls and theres nothing in your way anymore. Thats part of how you become a man, you do things forcefully and you don't let emotions take the best of you, like a little girl.

Enough from us, now what are YOU gonna do about this?

 

[nismo-4]

ASK HER OUT, DUMMY!!! You have a 99.99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% chance of getting the girl! if you're as attractive as you say!

 

[Asdfghjklll]

:rock:
good bye sosuave.net! i had no idea what to say so i wrote a poem sayin how i like her n asked her out in it n i stuck it in her locker. i was eatin lunch n she came outta nowhere n gave me a kiss on the cheek. we're goin bowling with some friends tomorrow then just me n her r goin to the movies. i wanted to go to the park too but it looks like it's gonna rain tomorrow. idk why i kept getting nervous around girls i like but i wrote a poem.....i know it woulda been better if i TOLD her but i just couldn't but now i think i can tell her anything. thanks for all the help guys. i don't think i'll be here anymore, maybe for a little update but that's it. thanks again for all the help

 

[Alkali]

:rock:
good bye sosuave.net! i had no idea what to say so i wrote a poem sayin how i like her n asked her out in it n i stuck it in her locker. i was eatin lunch n she came outta nowhere n gave me a kiss on the cheek. we're goin bowling with some friends tomorrow then just me n her r goin to the movies. i wanted to go to the park too but it looks like it's gonna rain tomorrow. idk why i kept getting nervous around girls i like but i wrote a poem.....i know it woulda been better if i TOLD her but i just couldn't but now i think i can tell her anything. thanks for all the help guys. i don't think i'll be here anymore, maybe for a little update but that's it. thanks again for all the help

See you in a week.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

:rock:
good bye sosuave.net! i had no idea what to say so i wrote a poem sayin how i like her n asked her out in it n i stuck it in her locker. i was eatin lunch n she came outta nowhere n gave me a kiss on the cheek. we're goin bowling with some friends tomorrow then just me n her r goin to the movies. i wanted to go to the park too but it looks like it's gonna rain tomorrow. idk why i kept getting nervous around girls i like but i wrote a poem.....i know it woulda been better if i TOLD her but i just couldn't but now i think i can tell her anything. thanks for all the help guys. i don't think i'll be here anymore, maybe for a little update but that's it. thanks again for all the help

Good job, though you didn't express your feelings in words, you used creative writing.
Writing poems, if done well, can really work in your favor (contrary to what other people might say). The concept is considered AFC sure, but you can write a poem like a DJ if you tried.
Short and sweet and something special really can do the trick.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Don't listen to me on this post.

Asking girls out in high school seems kinda whack. Am I the only one who thinks so? Theres like 2 places to go (unless your in a city, maybe then...) Mcdonalds or the movies. Both places are kinda ****ty 'dates'. None of the guys I know who have got gfs do any of this kinda stuff.

I'm with you on this one, SinJester.

I don't see the point of high school dating...high schoolers are immature, self-centered, and melodramatic (generally speaking), and unless you have a car and money, your options are pretty limited...there's nothing cool about asking your mom to drive you and your "bg/gf" to a restaurant for a date. High schoolers think they're mighty grown up, but they still have a lot of growing up left to do, and I think they should just enjoy the rest of their youth while they can and worry about the dating scene later.

Not trying to pick on any of you guys, just my rambling opinion.

 

[Canibus27]

Depends on where you live. I have a car and money so I could just drive where ever I want to. I've only had one girl in HS, and it was freshmen year, I'm a senior now. But if I did have a GF, there are plenty of options for us to do. Movies of course, plenty of places to eat (nice places), about three malls, put-put golf, I live 30 minutes from DC so I can drive there with her and check out the museums, football games, we used to have go-carts but they got closed down years ago, And I live 45 minutes from Kings Dominion (theme park). Not to mention parties. Also a YMCA and we have a quarry, that is really big, and we jump off the cliffs. You have to avoid the security guards though!

 

[Alkali]

I'm with you on this one, SinJester.

I don't see the point of high school dating...high schoolers are immature, self-centered, and melodramatic (generally speaking), and unless you have a car and money, your options are pretty limited...there's nothing cool about asking your mom to drive you and your "bg/gf" to a restaurant for a date. High schoolers think they're mighty grown up, but they still have a lot of growing up left to do, and I think they should just enjoy the rest of their youth while they can and worry about the dating scene later.

Not trying to pick on any of you guys, just my rambling opinion.

Most kids are driving and have part time jobs by sixteen.

I work on commission and make more than enough money for that.

Don't kid yourself; melodrama follows women, of any age, everywhere. :crackup:

If anything, high school is the optimum time to date before other responsibilities get in the way.

You said it yourself, we should enjoy our youth.