"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girls Stare and Approach, But Won't Talk To Me!

kody_starr

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Here are three incidents from Friday night, Halloween eve. Very perplexing.

1. girl in line for club stares at me as I am parking my car. Stares at me continually. She stares at me also when I'm out of my car, but not when I'm looking. When I look at her, she will only look in my direction. When I look away, my wing notices her staring at me, and notifies me.

I talk to her, she is completely unresponsive. No words, no body movement, just frozne and silent.

2. girl in cafe staring very hard as I walk past the window (she is inside). She stares hard some more continuously once I get inside. I open her directly, she says nothing. Won't even shake my hand.

3. Third girl. Opens me by giving me a small basket of candy. She walks away. I see her inside talking to the cashier. I re-open and she won't even look at me!

These chicks are crazy, man!

I got so frustrated, I said f*ck it and didn't even go out on halloween!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tyson420

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I'm lost, this is strange.

Maybe you're just weird looking.

Either that or you look like Brad Pitt and these girls are just too busy wetting themselves over you to even respond.
 

trent81

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They can look all they want, the only thing that matters is that they smile. If they smile, you can approach them. Or just approach them all and say "you got a fuvkin problem? Why you staring at me?"
 

kody_starr

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I wonder if I should smile more. Girls often tell me I'm hot or whatever, so maybe I should come across as a bit more accessible and warm in the beginning when they stare or approach.

Tyson420 said:
I'm lost, this is strange.

Maybe you're just weird looking.

Either that or you look like Brad Pitt and these girls are just too busy wetting themselves over you to even respond.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thedude4242

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funny you should mention that. I have the same problem. I was going to make a post about this but probably figured no one would understand. I go out places and have woman looking at me all the time, almost like they are intrigued, attracted or astonished. I know when it is a quick look or a look just in my direction, but you get them consistent looks right at you and you know they are looking at you on purpose. I have had a lot of woman tell me I am intimidating looking or mean looking. I should smile more so I have been working on that. you know when they are looking at you on purpose because it is a different look. dealing with woman you know when they accidently look compared to looking in your direction and when they actually continue to look. then they act like they were not looking at you or never noticed you. I would like to figure this particular thing more than anything on the boards.
 

Hot Ice Casanova

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Sometimes I get that look because of my big dark eyes.

If girls look, just look back and open them "hey what's up? you look lost" LOL, they will deny it and then you can open them!
 

kody_starr

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I've decided I should be as friendly as possible: no neggging, or anything weird. Smiling at the very beginning. And giving the girl the time she needs to chill and relax, even if it takes a really long time. :)
 
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