Girls speak through action , not words!

[zorg198]

Hello,

We always read & write to others about not to take what girls say but only from their action.

Here's a lesson i learned.

For the past 3 weeks I talked to this girl (HB8) , I found her from a coworker that she needs a recommendation about a laptop for her school . After a couple of days she responded and since that day we spoke through Facebook all day, she complimented me a lot and blah blah blah , it came to a point i stopped talking to her for several days because I got sick of it and she sent me a message saying she's missing talking to me. After while she agreed to meet , we went to a bar and i was a little bit insecure and hasty and didn't know where to go since it was so weird to me meeting a girl on Facebook. The "date" was great, we laughed a lot and it was good and we closed it after 2 hours.

The mistake I made is I sent her a message on whatsapp saying goodbye.

On the next day I sensed she changed her mood , she's not responding to my msgs and also write very short one's. Didn't pay too much attention because I really don't care, on Sunday same things , then she sent me a message saying she's not emotionally available and I shouldn't put my hopes on her . Said its fine and good luck.

So , lessons learned:

1. Never believe the words coming out of a girl , believe only her action
2. Don't text too much , seal the deal ASAP!
3. Never put a girl on a pedestal just because she's beautiful!!! She's only human.


Joe.

 

[nismo-4]

From my experience, a girl who's interested is only so when they go out with you and don't friendzone you. They also will typically pre-reject you before actually implementing it. These are usually done by actions like going no contact, being distant, sending mixed signals, etc.

If her actions and your gut say that she's in another castle, she usually is.

 

[zorg198]

I agree, i could tell from her response she's distant and behave differently . either way who cares, i was dating two other girls when i talked with this one.

Joe.

 

[zorg198]

Nismo,

Is it worth contacting her in the future or just go NC forever like i do know...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

The mistake you made wasn't saying "goodbye."

Her whole perception of you changed after the date; you disappointed her with your lack of game & not escalating the existing attraction.

In other words you came off one way to her over your FB messages & were different in person.

She's not attracted to you, so any attempt you make to contact her will likely be ignored or blown off. You got other chicks, so move on & learn how to be more engaging & fun in person.








PIMP

 

[zorg198]

Its funny , when we talked on facebook she saw my pictures and complimented me how cute and blah blah i am. this is one of the lessons i learned , never take what women say , only learn what they think by their action. either way case closed. moved on ...

Joe.

 

[pinkfl]

This should be common sense...
No one should be judged by what they say. Actions will always speak louder than words.
An alcoholic can claim they can stop anytime...but they never do.

 

[Iceberg]

Again, Pimp nails the advice before I had a chance to.

On the next day I sensed she changed her mood , she's not responding to my msgs and also write very short one's. Didn't pay too much attention because I really don't care, on Sunday same things , then she sent me a message saying she's not emotionally available and I shouldn't put my hopes on her . Said its fine and good luck.

My question is - where were you taking the conversation that you got to the point of talking about "emotional availability." This is just some girl you casually talk to. Even after a date, conversation shouldn't get that heavy.

As far as her mood change goes....maybe she wasn't feeling your vibe during the date. Or maybe it was your lack of escalation. Hell, maybe if you had escalated, she would have responded even IF she wasn't feeling your vibe.

Don't be too hard on yourself about that. No one is shooting 100% here.

So , lessons learned:

1. Never believe the words coming out of a girl , believe only her action
2. Don't text too much , seal the deal ASAP!
3. Never put a girl on a pedestal just because she's beautiful!!! She's only human.

But her ACTION was going on a date with you. She went out with you, yes? From that point, your job was to escalate things.

She didn't bullsh!t you with her words. She declared her interest. She acted on her interest. And then you didn't lead her down the path she wanted.

I agree with you about less texting and not sealing the deal. That's an absolute truth. My views on texting are: Be interesting and then be gone. Don't sit around texting nonsense all day, trying to be cute and witty.

 

[zorg198]

Agree,

Also i would like to point that she's under very high stress since she's going to college right now and she needs to move to the house on another city meaning leaving the house she knew all her life. also she broke up from her boyfriend two month ago , also i heard from my friend she has a lot of personal issues so i don't know if i am truly the reason she's not interested.

Joe.

 

[Jair213]

I think you messed up by the talking to her on FB all day at one point. I think this would have gone to another more succesful route without that whole FB sh!t. Did you even tried kissing her? At this point I would have.

I had a similar experience. I met this one chick through one of my female cousins. We met briefly, got her number, we texted every day none stop before meeteting for about 2 weeks. Date was awsome, took her to the beach. Had a great time. Etc.

After the date everything just ended. She didnt bother contacting me and neither Did I. Never spoke to her again. Lol.

 

[Jair213]

Agree,

Also i would like to point that she's under very high stress since she's going to college right now and she needs to move to the house on another city meaning leaving the house she knew all her life. also she broke up from her boyfriend two month ago , also i heard from my friend she has a lot of personal issues so i don't know if i am truly the reason she's not interested.

Joe.

When a female is really interested in you she's not gonna give a fvck about none of that, well not like that but she will keep seeing you. I experienced it first hand before. If you have ever being with a chick that is really over heels for you no matter the timing, you'll see watt I mean.

 

[JoeMarron]

I think you messed up by the talking to her on FB all day at one point. I think this would have gone to another more succesful route without that whole FB sh!t. Did you even tried kissing her? At this point I would have.

I had a similar experience. I met this one chick through one of my female cousins. We met briefly, got her number, we texted every day none stop before meeteting for about 2 weeks. Date was awsome, took her to the beach. Had a great time. Etc.

After the date everything just ended. She didnt bother contacting me and neither Did I. Never spoke to her again. Lol.

Sure talking to a chick on FB all day generally isn't a good idea but I doubt that's the reason nothing happened. Like you said in your last post when a female is truly interested blowing up her inbox isn't gonna kill the attraction that quick. Some people simply aren't attracted to each other for whatever reason and not all of those reasons are visible when there's no face to face contact.

 

[zorg198]

I agree , she simply not attracted to me , nothing to be worried about. on the same day deleted her number , also I wasn't her friend on Facebook which means I don't need to unfriend her. She wanted me to add her but I didn't think it's a god idea, I was right.

Joe.

 

[Kailex]

This should be common sense...
No one should be judged by what they say. Actions will always speak louder than words.
An alcoholic can claim they can stop anytime...but they never do.

Did you really just compare women to alcoholics?