girls says she likes me a lot and even love me but hestiant in having sex

[joe45]

met this girl before at mall and we hung out. we already went out like approx 8-10xs. we kised on date 3 and then date 4 we made out in car and fingering. im not her first guy or bf. she acts innocent around me asking what is doggy style, missionary and pretending not to know how babies are made. shes 25. shes unemployed for 2.5 years but another time she mentioned it was only one year.

she says she likes me a lot and im the best bf she ever had. the first time she said it was too painful to have sex when i fingered her -though a week later i asked her to go doctor to see why she got pain she responds back with ah ah there was no pain.so i couldnt have sex with her. another time in car i had to push to get her pants off and her panties off and shes very hestiant in sex with me. shes moving her hips so my **** misses and starts thrusting against her thigh. she says she loves me and likes me a lot but so hestiant in sex.

other times she complains that i didnt have a car since we just met up at a certain locaiton and went from there. so i got the car and later on in the text she saying shes not sure she wants to sit in my car for safety reasons. lol

another time in the car shes very hestiant to have sex with me this is on date 9. both times she says shes on period- one time a week ago and another 2 weeks ago-excuses be it period or i dont feel like it or not know. seems like shes very hestitant with wanting sex with me. she has had sex with guy on 2nd date and 3rd and it took me this long . why does she make me wait so long. she says she has to see if she has feelings first .


i paid for her a few times for meals since shes unemployed and a few times she tried to take the change money. i gave her a small teddy bear aas a gift and she was telling me how her sister's bf gave her a bigger bear and a rose,
she also has no friends from what i see and also never had a serious bf before. she said she scared i might sex her and leave her and i said i wont . we are bf and gf

i also notice one time she says she loves me and another day im ok, and another day she likes me and has feelings. she changes her mindset very fast.

 

[Blistex]

It sounds like she is playing you. I would tell her straight up if she does not want to have sex with you then you are breaking up with her. You want to have sex with her and she does not appear to want to. So why bother dating her? She might as well just be a friend. You have already been too kind with her and from the post, it seems like she has not done anything for you.

 

[iamnobody]

I see a sh1tload of red flags, Joe45. She's either stringing you along or she's a nut job. Or both. Drop her, don't waste your time.

 

[Vidrio]

You know what to do...

 

[Fatal Jay]

Dude I was in the same boat as you, this chick has a hb10 body with a hb7 face. Told me she loved me but I nevert f*cked her, last time we talked a year later we had a fight and never talked since then, and yet again I repeat I still didn't f*ck.

This girl threw every ****ing excuse in the book on why she wouldn't f*ck me, the crazy thing about this broad she has a kid, and has had two abortions.

Now all of a sudden she doesn't want to f*ck. Dude pay attention to my post, because a girl knows if she is going to bang you the first few min. of seeing your bro.

 

[killacam757]

Maybe she wants a bed instead of a car. It could just be me but car sex is rather uncomfortable.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

She's 25, baby, abortions, unemployed, mixed stories, excuses, complaining about gifts (you shouldn't have bought), won't bang you, no BJs mentioned, not even "let's go back to [your] place" suggested (by either of you). What is it, 9 dates?

Join date 2005, age 30, and 391 posts. (I'm not going to look through your post history but) I sure hope you haven't been actually giving out advice on these boards.

If you have, you must stop immediately. Write back to every person you gave advice to and confess your utter lack of experience in such matters.

 

[VladPatton]

Wife material. Buy an expensive ring and propose immediately.

 

[my1ken]

Looks like she found a potential ''sucker''.

 

[Kbomb]

Take her on an expensive vacation, and you pay all expenses. Also buy her whatever she asks for on said vacation. She will def put out then.

 

[joe45]

I see a sh1tload of red flags, Joe45. She's either stringing you along or she's a nut job. Or both. Drop her, don't waste your time.

why is she stringing me along

 

[Vidrio]

why is she stringing me along

Because you're letting her. Dump her and hold on to the small amount of dignity you have left.

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo knows this case.

She's stringing you along. Ever heard of Briffault's Law? It's being used on you and she doesn't find you a desirable male.

Go by what a woman does, not says, as they're miles apart. Example, What would you believe more, me telling you that we're cool, or me knocking your ass out? Exactly, you'd believe having your ass knocked out! At least I hope so. :box:

Besides, when a girl throws mixed emotions/ signals, she has little to no interest, but she wants to keep you around as a friend. Bad for you. Don't you know that women who are interested in you WON'T confuse you?

Dump her ass. Go ghost on her. Spin more plates. Your princess is most likely in another castle anyway. That's my ruling.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[Mike32ct]

She enjoys your company.

Part of her probably thinks you'd be a good bf in theory.

But she's been overruled. The big boss, the CEO of Attraction, has overruled her.

The big boss is not her mind. It's her VAG.

If the vag doesn't tingle for you, it's game over.

Listen to the Judge.

 

[pipe007]

Emotional trauma red flag!!!

If I was you I would proceed to assesss for past history of sexual abuse, moletation, or rape.

I'm serious. IT is very possible that she is unable to perform due to past sexual trauma. Some women experience this. Just ask her, and watch her reaction next time.

 

[Fatal Jay]

Emotional trauma red flag!!!

If I was you I would proceed to assesss for past history of sexual abuse, moletation, or rape.

I'm serious. IT is very possible that she is unable to perform due to past sexual trauma. Some women experience this. Just ask her, and watch her reaction next time.

yeah the chick I was trying to bang claimed she was forced into sex, and the abortions f*cked up her body. I could care less about broads like that though cause they put themselves in those positions most of the time.