I joined a local gym few months ago and while I'm working out I always get interrupted by someone. I even get ppl who talk to me when I'm squattin 230 lbs or deadlifting 300 lbs and want to know if I wanna "switch off" with them. Sometimes I get girls who won't start talkin to me but lift really NEAR ME. So what can I say to these ppl? I don't wanna sound rude but I just hate when I get stopped/distracted cuz I like to focus and not get injured and I don't go to the gym to socialize. BTW I always have headphones on so I really don't get why ppl insist on talking to me... Anyone else have the same problem? Any advice will be appreciated.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girls/ppl won't leave me alone at gym!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Amen. Hoodies and headphones give the "just let me lift" impression.
Dude just keep it short,when someone ask you something give your response and keep going,works for me. Here are some examples of what I mean,these happened to me so I know they work;
Guy in locker room(he is always there when Iam so he kinda knows me)- "Oh there he is,your about to make a run on these older guys here."
bw - "Thanks"(Put my jacket in the locker and headed out,no chit chatting)
Old guy in late at nights - "I was wondering if you still came here,I haven't seen you in forever."
bw - "Yeah,I've been busy,gotta lift."(Went back to the leg press)
Just keep it short,and get back to lifting,they will know you mean business.
Guy in locker room(he is always there when Iam so he kinda knows me)- "Oh there he is,your about to make a run on these older guys here."
bw - "Thanks"(Put my jacket in the locker and headed out,no chit chatting)
Old guy in late at nights - "I was wondering if you still came here,I haven't seen you in forever."
bw - "Yeah,I've been busy,gotta lift."(Went back to the leg press)
Just keep it short,and get back to lifting,they will know you mean business.
I've always supported the notion that the same ettiquete used in the Mens room should be applied in the gym. No talking to one another, no smiling, no eye contact, and talk to someone only if you are both trying to use the same machine. Grunting and loud noises are permitted, but no coherent words are to be spoken during grunting, such as "Oh YEAH!" or "YEAH baby!".
It's essentially standard procedure for anywhere that men tend to be in the same room.
It's essentially standard procedure for anywhere that men tend to be in the same room.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hockey Playa
Master Don Juan
who wears a hoody working out??
I go 3 or 4 times a week, once with friends and one alone. I always go late and my friends go early, the time I go with my friends there'll prolly be about 4 or 5 people I know in the gym. So on that day I won't have headphones, I'll speak a bit to them inbetween sets, etc.
However, on any other day, those are MY days. Headphones, no talking unless it's a ''you done with that mate?'' or an ''Alright'' and an eyebrow raise.
However, on any other day, those are MY days. Headphones, no talking unless it's a ''you done with that mate?'' or an ''Alright'' and an eyebrow raise.
spesmilitis
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That is the best advice so far.Cruise said:
If someone starts talking to you or workout close to you, ask them to scratch a part of your back that you can't cuz theirs a burning/itchy rash that's been annoying. If you ever get someone to actually do it (they could, just so they won't seem mean or something), tell em 'you have to go wash your hands now' cuz thats what a doctor told you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Hockey Playa said:who wears a hoody working out??
Me...:trouble:
donjuanjovi
Senior Don Juan
I actually started wearing a hoody and earphones at my college gym so people wouldn't talk to me. If someone from one of my classes was in the gym at the same time I was, they tried turning it into a fvcking social event.Hockey Playa said:who wears a hoody working out??
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
I wear one because it's kind of chilly. Plus, I hate those skinny kids who are like 6'2, 140lbs and walk around with cutoff tanktops. I'm not there to impress people. It's not a fashion show...I'm there to lift and leave.
md3sign
Senior Don Juan
Oh no girls are trying to hit on you run away!
Headphones work for me. I still get an ***hole here and there interrupting me in teh middle of a set. I just ignore them and finish up my set. Then I answer whatever question they have. If it's in the middle of a hard set and they're completely clueless about dispurting people, I'll let them know.
Some people just have no gym etiquette, but whatever.
Headphones work for me. I still get an ***hole here and there interrupting me in teh middle of a set. I just ignore them and finish up my set. Then I answer whatever question they have. If it's in the middle of a hard set and they're completely clueless about dispurting people, I'll let them know.
Some people just have no gym etiquette, but whatever.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.