Girls not asking you personal questions

[pyros]

Hello.

This happens almost all the time. I meet a girl, we go out on a date, and I am the one asking questions.
I ask about her life, her hobbies, her trips etc. and the girl answers, it seems you're having a nice conversation but it is actually like an interview: you ask, she replies, she does not ask you anything, or almost anything.
Let's say in 1.5 hours you asked her, I dont know, 8 personal questions and she asked you 0 personal questions or maybe one: 'what do you do for a living?' or 'where have you travelled?'


Does this happen to you?
I've dated several girls in the last year and it happened with all of them. At one point I got kind of
upset but I kept talking, flirting,having a good time etc, and we end up making out etc, but...why the heck dont they ask you personal questions? is it because of a low interest level? I dont get it.

If I remember correctly, my ex gf asked me a couple of personal questions the first time we met, and she kept doing it and increasing it.


What do you think? does this happen to you too?
I dont know if this happened before but now I realised.

P.S.

for example. Met this girl some days ago. I started the conversation. I asked her about her dancing skills, her studies, and a bit about her trip to Germany. She asked me zero personal questions, so I said bye to her and left. But I saw her checking me out two times during the night. ??

 

[Greasy Pig]

These chicks are probably bored senseless by such inane chatter.
They've had dozens of guys before you use the same approach and they're probably over it.

There's also a chance they're just typical young slvts who are self-absorbed and rude. Maybe they just don't know how to be polite.

Still, fvck the interview style, talk about something else like your surroundings or cool sh1t you've been up to lately. Preferably something funny.
I always struggle to remember what my convos are like after meeting a chick because it's usually just complete crap to make them laugh.

Make a girl laugh and she'll look at you in a completely different light.

 

[flashpoint]

Still, fvck the interview style, talk about something else like your surroundings or cool sh1t you've been up to lately. Preferably something funny.
I always struggle to remember what my convos are like after meeting a chick because it's usually just complete crap to make them laugh.

Make a girl laugh and she'll look at you in a completely different light.

exactly. people tend to forget we are talking FLIRTING here.

 

[pyros]

Yes, I make them laugh, so we have a good time. And I also talk about irrelevant funy crap.
But what I mean is that they're there with this attitude like if they were an spectator, just watching what is going on and
talking about themselves.

 

[NobodyCares1]

Yeah, I know what's it's like. With this girl that I've been going out lately I asked almost all the questions and so on, the conversation was flowing always but she almost never asked me anything, then after three weeks of us going out she said that she doesn't know anything about me, well who's fault is that. I just don't spill personal informations like that. Though she always seemed interested in us meeting again.

 

[JohnnyStorm]

When a girl mumbles a "What's new in your life then?" and looks like she doesn't give a fcuk about the answer, what's the best way to respond...in comedy fashion?

Is it approval seeking to actually tell her, if you have been up to a lot of actually cool stuff?

 

[Alvafe]

you could make it like a guess game or something if it works with the girl, you could also, say, "well i'm the only one talking your turn" or something on that line.

 

[sighsigh]

Wow... I was wondering the EXACT same thing. Here's my diagnosis: it doesn't correlate very strongly with IL.

I've had girls with no IL in me ask me tons of personal questions. Yet, yesterday I was with a girl who I had a good rapport going on with (she seemed interested, I was making her laugh, and so on). I fired a ton of personal questions at her and she never returned one.

I think people who don't ask personal questions simply aren't proficient at having conversations. It's not a natural action to ask a question about someone else (which makes sense, since you don't really care about the details of some stranger's personal life). You have to consciously make an effort to ask. And you ask for the sake of carrying on the conversation.

But people love to talk about themselves. If someone isn't experienced in socializing and is having tons of questions about their personal life fired at them, then they will be caught up in answering and never think to return any questions.

Your fear is that the girl you're talking to thinks that you're not worthwhile enough to ask questions about. But if she really thought that, then I doubt she would respond to your questions with gusto. She would certainly not agree to go on a date with you.

You have to really despise someone to consciously choose to not attempt conversation with them. Contributing to a conversation is basic social etiquette. The people who don't do it - unless they despise or are disgusted with you - simply lack that particular etiquette. Or maybe they have such a huge ego that they don't think an attempt at conversation is worth it. But if these things were the case, they would try and escape your presence asap, and - as I said - not respond to your questions enthusiastically.

 

[BeDJ]

My first dates will realize that towards the end and tell me "wait a minute, I barely know anything about you" I take that as my cue to exit and say "I agree and I would like to know more about you as well"

Take it as a very good thing. People love to talk about themselves all the time. They will tell you what their hot buttons are and how to close them. Use that to your advantage and respond accordingly.

 

[Purefilth]

^ i agree with this. While you want to joke around and not have your date sound like an interview, there's certain basic things two ppl should be asking each other when they're getting to know each other. The failure on the part of many women to do this merely reflects the fact that they are, for the most part, extremely selfish and self-absorbed.

Just do what you can to ignore it and get as much out of them of them while you can.

yes, but id put more emphasis on the fact that Maybe she's just not that in to you.
if youre doing the funny, getting laughs, and she's still not trying to find out anythung about you?
Well theres a point where you just go... Bored now - next

 

[pyros]

well this last chick (HB8 or slightly less) I went on a date with, she did not ask me any real personal question, just random silly funy stuff.

Btw, we went to have a drink, she got a juice. In the end I payed the bill and she did not even say thanks.

Next day I was thinking to myself that this chick is kind of nuts and unpolite (she did not even say thank you for the drink).
Couple of hours later, she texts me:
'Hey Pyros, thanks for the drink, I had such a great time. I hope you have a nice day!'

Some hours later I replied: 'hey, yes, it was fun. See you soon '



I think some hot girls are so used to date guys, so used to have guys orbiting around them, that when they go on a date, they think they just need 'to be there', and you'll do all the work (choose the place, be funy...ask her questions...).
Besides they're are selfish and a bit stupid I guess.


P.S.
Brad man, next plan: bang this girl. Help! lol
For now we just got together once for a drink.
Next time I wanna see if we have fun together, and if we do then I'll kiss her and she how it goes from there.
Also there are two or three girls that I can assure you they'd like to **** me but they are just not very sexy, I mean, they're an HB6 max, so I'll pass.
On the other hand, there is this other HB6 which is willing to **** me so I may return her the favour just because she's so willing to do so, that I have to do zero effort. I guess she's kind of nuts.