"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls love laid back

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is it just me or do all girls love it when a guy is laid back? I've noticed a trend with like several of the girls who've ive gone out with or girls that had really big crushes on me. They have almost all told me i seem so laid back. They eventually come to realzie im not laid back at all and lose interest fast. But I think im gonna try the laid back thing from now and try to keep it up permanantly. It's like girls see this as the guy being strong and in control i think. Am i right? I noticed with my ex that when i started to have probs at work i was in a bad mood at times and would tell her the problems, like she used to tell me about every single fvcking thing that ever happened at her job. When she told me i listened and was supportive even when i was bored to tears. When i told her my probs (the rare time i did) it was like she lost respect for me by 5% every time i spoke of it.

Who says its easier to be a guy? Guys have it much harder my opinion. We have to be men, no whining, no crying, complaining, talkin bout our problems. We gotta suck it up and let it go. We also have the pressure to be successful while for women, they can if they want to, but they can also make 25 g's/yr all their life and nobody will look down on them. We also have to be brave, they dont. We gotta be "good" in bed they r alwasy good lol. Anybody agree with me on this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The absolute best thing you can do with women is not talk. "What you say can be held against you." So keep your mouth shut.

No one ever said it was fair.

Yes women have to do those things. Choose the women that make more than 25k. Look down on them. I do. Why do you want to date someone who is beneath you? I'm not supporting any woman and she's not getting any of money if she chose some profession that doesn't pay.
 

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I'm not sure laid back is the word for it..

I find that women fall immediately for a guy who uses his words wisely. You can be laid back and drop clumsy lines. You can also be outgoing and use your words wisely.

Women definitely don't want a man who's always laid back. This translates to him being laid back in life, laid back in bed, laid back in ambition, etc.

Now, if you're a man who is confident but doesn't run his mouth with nonsense, then you're - confident but wise in life, confident but wise in bed, confident but wise in ambition.

I'm sorry, but not talking to a woman is nonsense. Women catogorize men who don't say anything as sheepish or weak. You can't go into a club or a bar without saying a word and have women harassing you.

It takes a man to initiate conversation, but then it's a woman's job to carry it on. That is when the man can become laid back and choose his words wisely, not sit there silently.
 

DJinTraining06

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WC2 said:
I'm not sure laid back is the word for it..

I find that women fall immediately for a guy who uses his words wisely. You can be laid back and drop clumsy lines. You can also be outgoing and use your words wisely.

Women definitely don't want a man who's always laid back. This translates to him being laid back in life, laid back in bed, laid back in ambition, etc.

Now, if you're a man who is confident but doesn't run his mouth with nonsense, then you're - confident but wise in life, confident but wise in bed, confident but wise in ambition.

I'm sorry, but not talking to a woman is nonsense. Women catogorize men who don't say anything as sheepish or weak. You can't go into a club or a bar without saying a word and have women harassing you.

It takes a man to initiate conversation, but then it's a woman's job to carry it on. That is when the man can become laid back and choose his words wisely, not sit there silently.

Well the girl i met a couple nights ago said im really easy to talk to and likes that i can hold a conversation well, unlike some guys. So thats not the kind of laid back she meant. not the droopy boring laid back like u describe it. Another girl who had a crush on me a few months ago told me i seem very laid back, and i said "really u think so, how so?" and she said "i dunno it seems like nothing ever bothers you"

See that is what i mean by laid back. I show enthusiams in other areas, i joke around and act enthusiastic at times, i didnt mean laid back as in im a lazy bum whos just sititng there not speaking. I think that girls like a man who doesnt let sh*t bother him. cuz they wanna be the emotional ones with problems, not us. We gotta be the strong protector type for them. And we cant be that if were always upset bout stuff.
 

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Right.
B!tches are the ones who get all huffy/puffy.
Men lean back... basking in their glory.

Acting when action is needed, otherwise... just pimpin it'
Women love a king... cause they themselves want to be the queen/princess.

Its ok to be fun, energetic... but the seductive quality in a man (I feel)... is his relaxed being, and illustrious words of craft/charm. So lean back and keep it Suave, Playaz'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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