Girls leaving you for another guy. Why? And how to prevent it?

[Skating Penguin]

It's been five years since it happened, but I still have a hard time understanding this.

It was my last year of high school. I was dating the same girl for the past two and a half years and it seemed that we were going to be together forever. I was closer to her than I've ever been to anyone else... nothing, it seemed, could get between us.

Until one day.

So it was 3 PM and school was over. We were packing up and, as usual, she waited for me in the hallway and we got ready to leave together.

So then, one of my classmates comes up to me looking really desperate. He says that someone stole his wallet and that he needs one dollar to buy a bus ticket to get home. I feel sorry for him and I give him a buck.

So then I walk downstairs with my girlfriend and we get our coats from the lockers. As we walk out, I see the guy I just gave a buck to buying a soft drink

I was mad at the guy and went to confront him, but my girlfriend was rolling over herself in laughter. Since then, she was all over that jerk and they started going out--flushing two and a half years of relationship down the drain.

I was really hurt, and they kept making even worse by french-kissing in front of me whenever they saw me and basically taunting me for the remainder of the year.

Since that day, I was never able to trust anyone and I've never managed to keep a girlfriend for more than two months because I'm always paranoid about something like this happening again.

Honestly, guys... is this something wrong I did or what? To this day I can't understand what happened back then and especially why it happened.

If I ever manage to hang on to the same girl for more than a couple of months, how can I make sure that she doesn't pull off crap like that?

 

[coldcoal]

Listen to me very carefully. You will destroy yourself trying to figure this out. You're not the only guy in here that has alot of serious questions on the nature of women. Let it go, man.

 

[iqqi]

well damn. that is really fvcked up!!! sorry that happened. didn't you ever have the breakup talk, where she told you why she did that sh!t?

 

[Skating Penguin]

Originally posted by iqqi
well damn. that is really fvcked up!!! sorry that happened. didn't you ever have the breakup talk, where she told you why she did that sh!t?

She didn't tell me much other than make fun of me.

 

[JonJack]

Try to understand and accept the fact that human beings are capable of doing really nasty things even to the nicest of people. You did nothing wrong and they did nothing wrong.

Prevent it? It can never happen.

Why did it happen? Because shyt happens all the time.

Y'know something? There wasn't a problem to begin with. It only started becoming a problem when you decided to wreck your mind with all these thoughts. Think about it.

 

[hithard]

This had nothing to do with you.Just a case of them being young and dumb.She prob got a thrill of having the power of knowing she could **** you over.Smell of an attention wh@re in the making

 

[nosexbox]

Holy, what a class "A" bee-atch.

I agree with everyone else... people are messed up... don't even bother trying to figure this out. WAY too many factors... women can go any direction any time.

 

[bbestar]

gawd!!!!


im sorry and its sorta funny at the same time :crackup:

I think I need to do more of what that guy did

 

[Sayajin_Prince]

just let it go man


preventing a gf from leaving? it depends on the age of the girl. if she's a teenager its more likely that she wants to discover new things and know more than one guy.

BUT YOU CAN ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST AND ACT ALWAYS LIKE A MAN

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I dont know whats more disturbing... the fact you're analyzing this to the death or the fact that you're doing it 5 years after it happened.

 

[jiza101]

ahha, i would have kicked that guys ass. Simply put, oy ****, say your sorry. If not hit him in the head. Done. Never think about it again. Its not a matter of money, its just the fact he ****ing rediculed you... I know who these ****s are, and trust me, sometimes they need to be knocked the **** out to wake up to themselves.

 

[NaturallySelected]

Originally posted by Skating Penguin
Honestly, guys... is this something wrong I did or what? To this day I can't understand what happened back then and especially why it happened.

If I ever manage to hang on to the same girl for more than a couple of months, how can I make sure that she doesn't pull off crap like that?

I have also been very paranoid that my current girlfriend will leave me. Why?

Well when I met her she had a BF, she fell in love with me, cheated on him with me (only kissing though). Me and this girl stopped seeing each other for a while but eventually she and her boyfriend broke up and now she is dating me. No doubt, part of the reason they broke up was her cheating on him, and her having feelins for someone else (me).

So naturally, I have been worried that she might meet some other guy who she will fall in love with, cheat on me with and eventually leave me for.

The irony is, that my paranoia was starting to show, so we were fighting more and I was being miserable with her a lot.

You see, it's a self-fufilling prophecy. If you're worried she will leave you for someone else, she probably will. But only because of your behaiour.

The more paranoid you are that she will leave you, the more possesive you will act, the more moody you will become and the more you will fight with her and she will end up leaving you. Not because she is a cheat or because you are not good enough. But because you chased her away with your paranoid-AFC behaviour.

I have realised that women can cheat, I also realise that my GF might cheat on me and leave me for someone else. I also know what it was that made her cheat on (and ultimately leave) her previous boyfriend- she was UNHAPPY, she didn't love him anymore. And most importantly they didn't TRUST each other.

I realise that I could also find myself unhappy in my current relationship with no way of improving my situation other than to leave my girlfriend.

I have decided that rather than worry about her all the time, I will just let our relationship take its course. I will try keep both my GF and myself happy and I will enjoy this relationship whether it lasts 6 months or the rest of my life.

If I keep her happy (without comprimising my own happiness of course) then she will be with me.

Being insecure is the biggest turn for a woman. Don't be paranoid, don't be AFC. Be a MAN.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Do you want to know what the reason is?

IT'S BECAUSE SHE'S A B!TCH! DUH!


Want to know how to avoid it>?

Stop dating women like or even SIMILAR to her, because let's face it, when it comes to women: If the neighbor's pitbull bites, so does yours.

 

[Black_Italian]

Originally posted by Skating Penguin
It's been five years since it happened, but I still have a hard time understanding this.

It was my last year of high school. I was dating the same girl for the past two and a half years and it seemed that we were going to be together forever. I was closer to her than I've ever been to anyone else... nothing, it seemed, could get between us.

Until one day.

So it was 3 PM and school was over. We were packing up and, as usual, she waited for me in the hallway and we got ready to leave together.

So then, one of my classmates comes up to me looking really desperate. He says that someone stole his wallet and that he needs one dollar to buy a bus ticket to get home. I feel sorry for him and I give him a buck.

So then I walk downstairs with my girlfriend and we get our coats from the lockers. As we walk out, I see the guy I just gave a buck to buying a soft drink

I was mad at the guy and went to confront him, but my girlfriend was rolling over herself in laughter. Since then, she was all over that jerk and they started going out--flushing two and a half years of relationship down the drain.

I was really hurt, and they kept making even worse by french-kissing in front of me whenever they saw me and basically taunting me for the remainder of the year.

Since that day, I was never able to trust anyone and I've never managed to keep a girlfriend for more than two months because I'm always paranoid about something like this happening again.

Honestly, guys... is this something wrong I did or what? To this day I can't understand what happened back then and especially why it happened.

If I ever manage to hang on to the same girl for more than a couple of months, how can I make sure that she doesn't pull off crap like that?

I think its because you say things like "french kissing".

Ninja out

 

[Jay-X]

i know how it is, since last year, a girl i had been going out with for months (we had been "in love" with each other since 3 years before) ditched me for my class' nerd... a guy whose nickname was "the desperate"... they met when i had compassion for him and decided to introduce him to her and her girlfriends so that he could get to know some chick. then, when they and other friends of ours went camping for a week (i couldn't go with them), it happened. i was sad for a couple of days, then i hooked up with a hotter girl who, still now, is my girlfriend. anyway, i know that this experience, i'll never forget it. even now, i'm afraid that my best friends will steal her from me

 

[Kitsune]

Maybe the key is to express the fact that if she decides to go for another guy, then it's really her loss. Maybe give time to think it over, go out, have a couple of drinks, and then move on. when she sees that you're having a good life (or an even better life) without her she'll be jealous of the fact that you're not in depressed.

I point you to this post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82346