girls keeping pictures of their ex

[pyros]

Hi.

I would like to know whats your opinion about girls that keep pictures of their exes on their FB profile.


Let's say you've dated a girl for several dates, you've slept together and it seems its going fine and towards a relationship.
Would you say something about those pictures?
If you become exclusive, would you call her out then?


Thanks.

 

[GotED?]

I think if your relationship status is currently undefined, talking about these things is going to make you appear to be a control freak and insecure. However, I think time is the essence with these situations and the level of committment. Obviously, if you two are 'in a relationship' for a few months officially, this then would be an appropriate request if it offends you to still see her have ex photos on FB.

But remember, there are 6 billion people on this planet - each to his or her own thinking, beliefs, and values. Not everyone is going to be on your wavelength. The key is to find the woman who IS on your wavelength and thus that is right fo you. That right one will never have to make you ask her to do something like this - she already did it because you two are compatible per say.

Good luck.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[bukowski_merit]

Hi.

I would like to know whats your opinion about girls that keep pictures of their exes on their FB profile.


Let's say you've dated a girl for several dates, you've slept together and it seems its going fine and towards a relationship.
Would you say something about those pictures?
If you become exclusive, would you call her out then?


Thanks.

If you say something about those pics and give her 90% of the relationship!

You're also giving her reasons.... What are reasons? Things that justify future actions.... They're going to be her "reasons" for doing them (this can be lying about things; this can be making absurd requests of you; this can be breaking up with you; this can be cheating on you.)

It's also important to understand what the pictures might represent to her. IF they're of them kissing or just of him in their house together - well; that's she's probably still hung up on him (or using them for social status if she's that type of girl.).. But if they're of them having a good time out, or at the beach or on some vacation..... They might just represent a good time they had... I know I have up pics on my page of me and an ex in Miami. Haven't seen her in 5 years, and she's as big as a whale now (she was tiny when i dated her). But they represent a great vacation in my life.

I think if your relationship status is currently undefined, talking about these things is going to make you appear to be a control freak and insecure.

Unfortunately, she will see that even if they are in a relationship. Regardless of if she does it or not - she will see it as insecure and a representation of jealousy.

Unless - she's a perfectly reasonable woman......

But, as you said - she wouldn't make you ask her in the first place.

 

[SecondHalf]

As GotED said, everyone is different.

I don't think I would react to pictures of an ex, but pictures of an ex and her showing affection would be bad.

Also, I'd expect to have more pictures there than other corpses.

For me it's a mute point, any chick that uses FB or other types of social media to share with people other than the closes friends or family, I'll avoid.

SH

 

[vatoloco]

Let's say you've dated a girl for several dates, you've slept together and it seems its going fine and towards a relationship.

Woah! Woah! "Slow down there, pardner!"

This is a dangerous approach to take...

Would you say something about those pictures?
If you become exclusive, would you call her out then?

The question is "Would you like to be exclusive with a girl who is not over her ex?"



Personally, I wouldn't even consider getting into an LTR with a girl who 1) either kept in contact with her ex[es] or 2) still has pictures of him/them.

Tells me she's not over him/them and that I will be playing second fiddle.

and vato don't play that!

 

[seethehoop]

Unless it's her profile pic then pay it no attention, fb photo albums are just the electronic equivalent of the photo drawer you have at home. Yeah there are photos in it but you never go in it. They just sit there, you know they are there but you just leave them be.

You have to acknowledge she had a past, accept it. It's only an issue if you let it be. Besides you have yours, its called the w@nk bank.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I'd wait till she mentioned something about my FB pics or something similar. Then i'd tell her to take hers down if she want's me to take mine down. Had a girl ask me to change my relationship status on FB once, I told her I wasn't going to do it if she had a buncha dudes pics on her profile.

A man of value should not preoccupy himself with some pictures a girl he's seeing has on FB.