Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why not ask them what makes you such a nice guy?Originally posted by Quinzio
Each time I know a girl, after a while she says I am a nice guy.
I don't know why, and I get pissed off.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls keep telling me "I'm a nice guy"
- Thread starter Quinzio
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Backtothemack I see your logic but I'm with lost in translation here. Up to this point in my life no women I have been interested in has called me nice. I've had the "ohh your so mean" or "thats not nice" comments but never "your a nice guy."
If I ask a women why she calls me she would say "cuz I love talking to you" not "cuz your nice." The closest thing I've come to being called nice is "aww your soo sweet" even that makes me cringe lol.
If I ask a women why she calls me she would say "cuz I love talking to you" not "cuz your nice." The closest thing I've come to being called nice is "aww your soo sweet" even that makes me cringe lol.
Originally posted by Lost In Translation
BackToTheMack
"your a nice guy" in reality means "im attracted to you" it has nothign to do with youa ctuly being nice.
WRONG !
women don't want a nice guy
ignore the babble that spews forth from their mouths
WOMEN WANT A MAN
nice guy = pu$$y
and guess what ! she already has a pu$$y so she don't need another !
Lost In Translation
**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
I've had several arguments with various women (that i don't want so i don't mind talking about 'the game' with) where my definition of nice guy (afc) and their definition of nice guy (guy who is nice but not too nice and can get away with being a jerk sometimes) are completely different.
What we here on nosuave refer to as "nice guy" (afc) they usually just refer to as wuss/pu$$y and nice guy is actually a level above that and someone they're attracted to.
So "nice guy" to us might = pu$$y, but in my findings their definition is different. We (the genders) both recognize the types of guys, we're just using different definitions for "nice guy." But only sometimes... so it's confusing =p Nice guy CAN equal real man to some women depending on the definition they use.
Docs
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Nice Guy (AFC) - 'too' nice, unattractive to girls, takes the fall and waits if the girl doesn't like him.
Nice Guy - A balance made between being a nice person and a jerk. He considers girls as human beings by not trying to hurt them, but he doesn't sit there obsessing over them. He knows the rules of the DJ and might very well be practicing them. His personality lets girls know that he is someone they can confide in, but at the same time, letting loose a little bit of a attitude to let them know that he's different. Basically, he's the guy that when girls find out that he's playing both nice and not, it could lead to extreme attraction.
Player: AFC enemy. Most use those solid 'pickup lines', some are DJ's that use the skill improperly, some just don't care about girls. Usually, these guys always have a girl drooling over them, and love to steal AFC's girls. Nice guys are also vulunable to a player, but are less suspecible because of their DJ training.
And finally, thy DJ:
He knows how to handle girls. He knows how to manage unpredictable situations and knows that he can grab his nuts, spin in a circle and bee-line it to the best looking girl in the bar. You could consider these the master pickup men, because they won't waste their time with someone who isn't interested. This allows for them to pickup a massive amount of girls and pick who they'd want. They aren't considered a player (although the misconception is big) because by taking a group of girls he got ahold of, he can pick the one(s) that offer him the best relationship for his current situation.
Skill Set:
AFC -> -9
Nice Guy -> 4
Player -> -3
DJ - 9
Nice Guy - A balance made between being a nice person and a jerk. He considers girls as human beings by not trying to hurt them, but he doesn't sit there obsessing over them. He knows the rules of the DJ and might very well be practicing them. His personality lets girls know that he is someone they can confide in, but at the same time, letting loose a little bit of a attitude to let them know that he's different. Basically, he's the guy that when girls find out that he's playing both nice and not, it could lead to extreme attraction.
Player: AFC enemy. Most use those solid 'pickup lines', some are DJ's that use the skill improperly, some just don't care about girls. Usually, these guys always have a girl drooling over them, and love to steal AFC's girls. Nice guys are also vulunable to a player, but are less suspecible because of their DJ training.
And finally, thy DJ:
He knows how to handle girls. He knows how to manage unpredictable situations and knows that he can grab his nuts, spin in a circle and bee-line it to the best looking girl in the bar. You could consider these the master pickup men, because they won't waste their time with someone who isn't interested. This allows for them to pickup a massive amount of girls and pick who they'd want. They aren't considered a player (although the misconception is big) because by taking a group of girls he got ahold of, he can pick the one(s) that offer him the best relationship for his current situation.
Skill Set:
AFC -> -9
Nice Guy -> 4
Player -> -3
DJ - 9
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
That's what i meant but you explain ti better.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The problem with this site is that you guys are too eager to create formulas and labels for everything. "NIce guy", "Jerk", "PUA" are all very limited ways of looking at yourself. Even the best PUA has AFC moments. And the nicest guys will be assh0les sometimes.
Notice in my response how I complete disqualify her perception of me. This gets her wondering who I really am. It is perfect because once the gal is trying to figure you out, instead of vice-versa, the game is already yours!
Instead of worrying about how "nice" or "smooth" or "DJ-like" you are appearing, how about we try not worrying at all? In fact, why not leave the worrying to the women? They are much better at it, and your imagination is much better suited towards making things happen, instead of fretting over what someone thinks of you.
Grow some fukking balls, people.
Notice in my response how I complete disqualify her perception of me. This gets her wondering who I really am. It is perfect because once the gal is trying to figure you out, instead of vice-versa, the game is already yours!
Instead of worrying about how "nice" or "smooth" or "DJ-like" you are appearing, how about we try not worrying at all? In fact, why not leave the worrying to the women? They are much better at it, and your imagination is much better suited towards making things happen, instead of fretting over what someone thinks of you.
Grow some fukking balls, people.