Girls just dont seem to find me attractive, at all.

[simple295]

I cant seem to figure out what it is, my best friend is a female(of course a girl i'd love to have sex with) and even she cant seem to figure out my problem. I look at girls in public/hallways/any where, and they look for 1 second, and then just look away like nothing happened. Girls seem to have 0 attraction to me.

My (girl)friends dont flirt with me as much as other guy(friends), rarely touch me. It never used to be this way, until I became more aware of how i am. I fixed my posture, the way i spoke, walked and acted. All for what seems to be the better, I speak with more confidence and less ghetto.

I weigh about 140 at 5'9, so im not SUPER skinny or fat. I'll post a few pictures if requested.

I cant remember the last time I looked at a girl, and she smiled, they always look away.

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

i think you are giving out the wrong vive to girls...

 

[simple295]

i think you are giving out the wrong vive to girls...

really? how can i give out the right vibe?

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

because from wat i read you prob pay too much attention to girls.. and look at them if like u asked for a smile..

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You dont get confident by being self-concious. If anything, it makes you worse.
You get confidence by your perception of your experiences.
What Im saying is that you have to go out of your current comfort zone.

Dont expect girls to go out of their way for you. You're the man, it's your job to get them.

Your main problem is very likely the fact that you're not being happy. You're not spreading good vibes.
Spread good vibes without wanting anything in return, and you're golden.
And all the other stuff.

 

[simple295]

You dont get confident by being self-concious. If anything, it makes you worse.
You get confidence by your perception of your experiences.
What Im saying is that you have to go out of your current comfort zone.

Dont expect girls to go out of their way for you. You're the man, it's your job to get them.

Your main problem is very likely the fact that you're not being happy. You're not spreading good vibes.
Spread good vibes without wanting anything in return, and you're golden.
And all the other stuff.

How would you suggest I go out of my comfort zone? Talking to more girls? Taking risks? or through self improvement?


That seems to make sense, I only show im confident or happy to show it. Not because I actually am.

 

[Pozitron]

Spread good vibes without wanting anything in return, and you're golden.

This advice is gold if you get it. I've reached the same conclusion.

You are looking for others( girls) to accept you and approve what you're doing. When they don't, you're "sad". It's your ego striving for more and more to confirm your reality ( that you've changed and are great)

You are focusing of others. The focus is yourself ( in no selfish and arrogant way). You make your happiness .

Don't act happy or confident cause that's not being authentic and others can see trough that.

Be natural. Give value to people. When you are considering everybody to be great you are yourself great because you see everybody in that way. Spread good vibes just for the sake of it. Share love and happiness. Make someone's day. Leave people better of that you've found them . Try it.

Enjoy your life and in the process make others enjoy their's.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I mean that every time you back down from doing something because you're scared, I want you to DO IT.
Start small.
Think big.
Start now.

Remember that this is normal. You're a hero from the very act of changing.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Have you ever thought, just for a moment that these girls aren't keeping eye contact with you because you might just be TOO attractive! Maybe you make them scared and anxious!
Damnit! am I the only one that really thought of this...huh?

 

[Pozitron]

That's a good perspective; it gives you power.

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

good one Niko-Tk..

 

[simple295]

Pozitron: Thank you, I thought about what you said and its exactly right. I never wanted to admit that I needed approval, but it is true. I just need to realize I dont need anyone else's approval.

NorwegianDJ: I like the advice, I am just not sure what you mean by it. What kind of situations are you referring to? Talking to people? Walking a different way in the hallways? I cant seem to put my finger on it.

Nino-TK: If only that were true :\

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

man just believe it is wat Niko-Tk said..once you believe you will be more confident around girls and they will notice...

 

[Jake_tha_Boss]

dont get down on yourself think about it, SELF-esteem, it is wat YOU think of YOUR GODDAMN SELF, other people dont define you, YOU DEFINE YOURSELF

 

[JustLurk]

Nino-TK: If only that were true :\

Who do you think you are, a mind reader? Stop wondering what others are thinking and pay attention to yourself.* It's the only thing that you can be sure of and the only thing that won't give you a headache worrying about it.

*Your perception of self will be mirrored in other peoples' perception of you.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

I feel like you suffer from hunter syndrome.
Hunter syndrome is when the guy decides he has to 'hunt' all girls for sex, go on the prowl for it, fcuk everygirl he possibly can. These guys see interest and stalk it. They burn attraction to the ground in an attempt to sex every last girl.
It doesn't work, girls sense that mix of desperation and frustration and go from feeling good as a moderately good looking guy checks them out, to feeling like they're getting sized up by a sexual offender.
The things that led me to this conclusion were that you want to have sex with your female best friend (thats messed man, she's a friend first and a girl second, for sexual purposes at least. She'll hook you up later, if you're cool), that girls make eye contact with you then look way quickly (they can see in your eyes, they're windows to your soul. Even when I'm cool and calm chicks can sense the mind **** in my eyes, and the sexual vibe in the contact).
Or maybe you check them out, then make eye contact. Chicks dislike that fairly strongly. Or maybe you make eye contact, then smile. Thats wrong because you're rewarding her just for being female-which hints at you being desperate. If you want to acknowledge her, do it neutrally as a human being, with an eyebrow raise.