"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girls Intimidated By Good Looking Guys

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What's up players,

I found this site just randomly looking around on the web trying to find some good info. I'm told I'm a good looking guy but I am quite shy around females. Actually, once I get to know a girl, I can get some pretty good conversation going.

The thing is, sometimes girls get nervous around me also. I'm told I'm a good looking guy and sometimes I think the females are somewhat at a loss as to how to respond to me. I tried to game this cashier girl yesterday and she was getting really flustered and embarrassed. She messed up the transaction and wound up giving me ten more dollars than she was supposed to! I didn't realize it until later.

Sometimes these girls almost seem to get mad when I game them. They'll say something sarcastic at me or frown or something if I just try to be polite. Is anybody else dealing with some of the same issues?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is anybody else dealing with some of the same issues?
No, not really. Maybe you're just too beautiful.

Seriously, tho, having girls get nervous around you is generally a good thing (way better than the alternative). If worse comes to worse, just try to reassure them.
 

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Yea This happens to me a lot when I'm cold approaching Asian exchange students. I can tell they're interested but they are too shy to spice up the convo, so I usually get bored with them and leave. I need spice, damnit!
 

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I guess I'm good looking since everyone thinks I should be a model or watever so prob at least 7/10, but ya girls seemed to be really shy when they first meet me. Some bold ones like the alpha-females would actually approach me first and try to flirt. The ugly-normal ones never had approached me, but I see them taking pictures using their cellphones, which is creepy. The best solution is just not give a f*ck and take what you want, there's 10,000 girls turning 18 everyday!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Obsidian

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I guess I'm good looking since everyone thinks I should be a model or watever so prob at least 7/10

First of all, looks are NOT the primary criterion in determining a man's attractiveness.

But if you guys seriously want to get a good estimate of your looks, go to hotornot.com and post a pic. Then once you've gotten about 100 people to rate you, convert your rating to the traditional scale. (At hotornot.com, they normalize the data to make it so that the average rating is about a 5.0. According to the traditional system, the average rating is about 7-8 for young, healthy people.)

On the other hand, it's a tad bit womanly to even worry about your looks so maybe you should just ignore this post.
 

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OR... you could get some balls and bang them.
How about making the first move for a change.
 

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picture...
 

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Either way over analyzing isn't going to help you get over this problem. Trust me i've been there. Grabbing your balls is...

You have an insecurity and you need to get over it. If they seem rude, maybe they feel threatened by you. Try smiling.
 

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It doesn't really sound like he's overanalyzing. He's just failed several times and is trying to see if he can improve somehow.

In reality, tho, making girls nervous by your extreme attractiveness should not be a big problem.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Either a dude is too good looking and intimidates girls or is too ugly and they are not attracted to him, you can use any excuse not to sarge, I have not yet read a "My D!ck is too big" thread yet, it has to come one of these days, as every other excuse for not being able to fvck hot babes has in my few months of posting on here, get balls and approach, don't wuss out dudes.
 
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Play the Game said:
OR... you could get some balls and bang them.
How about making the first move for a change.
That's gross!

I think the guy should try to give a more reassuring smile, so the girls can become comfortable.

Cheers!
 

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Meccamputechture said:
That's gross!

I think the guy should try to give a more reassuring smile, so the girls can become comfortable.

Cheers!

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...........................What are you here for, then?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've been told that I look like an old dog's a$$ and that my skin looks like the Himalayas. On hotornot I consistently rate in the 2's.

And chicks are always clawing each other to be with me. It's terrible, does anyone have this problem??
 

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dude are you serious? did you read his thread at all?

you have NO idea what his problem is and you're just throwing random advice about how he needs to grow balls.

are you retarded? seriously.

he's asking if anyone else notices how girls get shy around good-looking guys.

but dude, it's fine... you look totally cool and so suave with your post count higher. you're so suave... cool. nice.

and to the OP, yes i notice it.
 

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I just know where this is going... He doesn't need to whine like a little *****.
If he is indeed good looking he needs to use it to his advantage.
Whining is self defeating, and turns of women no matter how good looking you are.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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