Girls in their 20s

[viking22]

I guess I am kinda mature for my age and have grown out of the going to parties, hooking up with random girls scene. While I do enjoy the regular sex and have the skills and the looks to be able to get girls, I am rally looking for something more meaningful.

But it seems all the hot girls my age are just looking to party, have fun, and get through as many guys as they can.

I used to think this was great because if you are good looking and have some game like I have, you can pull girls relatively easily.

But I've soon realised none of these girls are looking for relationships and at best are just looking for short term casual affairs based on sex.

I live in the UK so it is quite hard to meet girls outside of bars and clubs; and obviously bars and clubs tend to attract these party girls.

Its getting kinda frustrating. I'm not sure whether it is hot girls in general or just an indication I should try other venues for meeting girls.

Any ideas ?

 

[backbreaker]

it's not a "phase"... like peeing on yourself (hooking up with random girls that is), it's enjoying life. I'm not here to pass judgement, you are who you are, but don't look at hanving fun with different girls as a phase to be outgrown such as say, wetting the bed.

Live a little. how old are you?

 

[insidious]

Haha, not to generalize, but the 20-something chicks I know love to pay lip service to that whole ideal of meeting the "perfect guy" but in reality, they just wanna live it up as much as anyone else in their age group.

When I was your age dude I didn't even have time for women, I was all about music and getting high, and the occasional chick who ended up in my sack (or vice versa).

Why get serious when you are in the prime of your reckless period?

 

[backbreaker]

One of my rules on women is not to take women seriously, unless she is your mommy or wife. until then, women are to be treated like 5 year old kids

 

[Obsidian]

Well, the club venue is definitely counterproductive if you're looking for non-hors.

women are to be treated like 5 year old kids

lol

 

[backbreaker]

see, it's **** like that that is wrong with this forum.


People go to the club for a good time. They do have a dance floor, most have pool tables, all have bars, etc.

Are there *****s in the club? yes.. you bet your life there are. Are there alot of *****s in the club? You wouldn't get an arguement from me.

But is the club nothing but a parking lot full of sex crazied nymphoes who sleep durning hte week and come out on friday and satruday nights?

NO!

the problem is most guys generalize everything. this coming from someone who isn't even a big fan of clubs and i get sick and tired of the generazations.

This type of brainwashing is just as bad as watching "friends" on TV or listening to your dad tell you how you are supposed to bring frlowers on the first date.

 

[STR8UP]

One of my rules on women is not to take women seriously, unless she is your mommy or wife. until then, women are to be treated like 5 year old kids

 

[STR8UP]

see, it's **** like that that is wrong with this forum.


People go to the club for a good time. They do have a dance floor, most have pool tables, all have bars, etc.

Are there *****s in the club? yes.. you bet your life there are. Are there alot of *****s in the club? You wouldn't get an arguement from me.

But is the club nothing but a parking lot full of sex crazied nymphoes who sleep durning hte week and come out on friday and satruday nights?

NO!

the problem is most guys generalize everything. this coming from someone who isn't even a big fan of clubs and i get sick and tired of the generazations.

This type of brainwashing is just as bad as watching "friends" on TV or listening to your dad tell you how you are supposed to bring frlowers on the first date.

It's not just this forum unfortunately.

It's soooooo funny, cause so many people walk around squawking about how bars are terrible places to meet people.

You can point out that they themselves and MOST other people go to bars, but it still doesn't get through their thick skull that a bar isn't a whole lot different than ANY other place when it comes to meeting women.

One of my female friends is REALLY bad about this. She will tell you how bad it is in bars and that you will never meet a quality person in that type of venue, blah, blah, blah. Then saturday night rolls around and where is she? At a bar or club, of course.

ALL of my friends go to bars. Everyone I know aside from some married couples goes to bars. Same as they go to gas stations, grocery stores, school, or anywhere else.

People crack me up.

 

[mintxx]

'But I've soon realised none of these girls are looking for relationships and at best are just looking for short term casual affairs based on sex.'

So what? Even if this self-justifying, rationalising generalisation has some predictive or analytical value, it simply reflects the fact that most girls have realised that the most they often can get from a man of some value at that age is short term casual sexual relationships. You wouldn't be complaining if they were pursuing you. Girls have it easy in some ways, but very tough in others if you realise how their priorities increasingly differ to yours with age.

'I live in the UK so it is quite hard to meet girls outside of bars and clubs; and obviously bars and clubs tend to attract these party girls.'

I think this gives a few clues about your problem.

My gf of two years was pretty much a 'party girl' once too. Get into the field and unfukk your mindset.

 

[viking22]

Im 23 so yeah I am young. Don't get me wrong. I do enjoy hooking up with girls and I like going to clubs and bars and hanging out with friends, flirting with girls all this sort of thing.

But at the same time, I would like a relationship as while there are loads of hot girls out there, they are good for fun and sex it would be nice to find a girl I actually enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom and can actually talk to.

I totally understand why girls in their 20s want to have fun. Ive talked to female friends and they say while on one level they do want to meet a great guy, on the other hand they find relationships really restraining.

The only girls seemingly interested in relationships are the plain jane types which do not do it for me