"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girls have approach anxiety too: Field Report

Dannyrt34

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So me and my buddy got sick of going to the same bar every weekend. Last night, we decided to try something new.

So we get in the car and drive down to the city and try out the clubbing scene. I worked hard all day so I was a tad bit tired and really just wanted to go relax and check out the scenery, haha. We get inside, and the place was pretty much packed. We walk over to the bar, get some drinks and go sit down. I was expecting a sh'tty night since I wasn't in a talkative mood, and for the first hour or two, I was right. That's where my best bud comes in, he talks to everyone. So whenever some girls walk by he always said "How you doin?". Usually he just got short answers from the girls, but at one point a few fat girls stayed to talk. Lmao, I was laughing hysterically at that point because the one was so drunk she couldn't even stand. There's nothing like watching a huge fat girl wobbling around while her smaller friends try to hold her up.

Anyway, the laughing kinda put me at ease a little more. But I still didn't feel like moving around too much. So I still pretty much just sat there. Then, I look over and see my buddy talking to 2 really gorgeous girls. I could tell by the looks on there faces that they weren't enjoying his company, so they kept it short and kept walking.

About a minute after that I get a tap on the shoulder and the one really gorgeous girl was standing there saying her friend really wants my number. I said "who's your friend?" and she pointed her out to me. And sure enough, it was the other gorgeous girl. She said that her friend was too scared to come talk to me. I was like, I don't think I'm that scary of a guy. Anyway I gave her my number and then they ran off.

A few minutes later, she texts me. I kept trying to get her to come back over to see me but I guess she was bein a girl afc and too nervous. I find this funny that even some of the most beautiful girls have approach anxiety also.

Anyway, after that me and my buddy left the club. We went home and that girl kept sending me a few texts here and there, she was being very flirty, and she seemed very nice actually.

So overall it was an ok night, didn't really go crazy talking to alot of girls. But still got a number I guess.

This should go to show alot of you that have approach anxiety that many girls, even the HOT ones, feel the same way.

Thanks for reading.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Vanilla

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It's not the woman's job to approach though, so she's inexperienced. Especially since she's hot, I'm sure many guys would be all over her, so she's never had that problem before.
 

K.Pez

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how do you guys feel when a girl approaches you, instead of you approaching them? i think it is pretty hot hah. i love it when i'm somewhere and a girl starts talking to me from out of nowhere and at the end asks me to exchange numbers with her. it's all go from there!!
 
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