"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girls have approach anxiety too: Field Report

Dannyrt34

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So me and my buddy got sick of going to the same bar every weekend. Last night, we decided to try something new.

So we get in the car and drive down to the city and try out the clubbing scene. I worked hard all day so I was a tad bit tired and really just wanted to go relax and check out the scenery, haha. We get inside, and the place was pretty much packed. We walk over to the bar, get some drinks and go sit down. I was expecting a sh'tty night since I wasn't in a talkative mood, and for the first hour or two, I was right. That's where my best bud comes in, he talks to everyone. So whenever some girls walk by he always said "How you doin?". Usually he just got short answers from the girls, but at one point a few fat girls stayed to talk. Lmao, I was laughing hysterically at that point because the one was so drunk she couldn't even stand. There's nothing like watching a huge fat girl wobbling around while her smaller friends try to hold her up.

Anyway, the laughing kinda put me at ease a little more. But I still didn't feel like moving around too much. So I still pretty much just sat there. Then, I look over and see my buddy talking to 2 really gorgeous girls. I could tell by the looks on there faces that they weren't enjoying his company, so they kept it short and kept walking.

About a minute after that I get a tap on the shoulder and the one really gorgeous girl was standing there saying her friend really wants my number. I said "who's your friend?" and she pointed her out to me. And sure enough, it was the other gorgeous girl. She said that her friend was too scared to come talk to me. I was like, I don't think I'm that scary of a guy. Anyway I gave her my number and then they ran off.

A few minutes later, she texts me. I kept trying to get her to come back over to see me but I guess she was bein a girl afc and too nervous. I find this funny that even some of the most beautiful girls have approach anxiety also.

Anyway, after that me and my buddy left the club. We went home and that girl kept sending me a few texts here and there, she was being very flirty, and she seemed very nice actually.

So overall it was an ok night, didn't really go crazy talking to alot of girls. But still got a number I guess.

This should go to show alot of you that have approach anxiety that many girls, even the HOT ones, feel the same way.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Vanilla

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It's not the woman's job to approach though, so she's inexperienced. Especially since she's hot, I'm sure many guys would be all over her, so she's never had that problem before.
 

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how do you guys feel when a girl approaches you, instead of you approaching them? i think it is pretty hot hah. i love it when i'm somewhere and a girl starts talking to me from out of nowhere and at the end asks me to exchange numbers with her. it's all go from there!!
 
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