"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girls giving you their numbers than dropping the I have a BF

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So I was eating.

There is a nice waitress coming from another country on an exchange.

We talked, I flirted, and being nice etc...

She eventually come stand next to be and talk about going out etc...

I tell her: what you doing ''at this time (day and place, hour), if you free join me for this event''

She goes '' I am free''... you have my number?

Proceed to giving me her number.

Than, she whisper ''I got a BF, we came together''.

What you think happened?

She's on a the fence? looking for a friend or a party? My approach was solid than weak, so she drop the BF talk?

I am curious if it ever happened to you... the girl moved to give you her number and than she mentions being ''unavailable''.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Maybe just seeing how you'd react. Having a boyfriend doesn't mean **** nowadays. I overheard 2 coworkers talking to each other about me because one of them really likes me. And everyone knows she's got a boyfriend too lmao. Just act as if she didn't say that. That's what I'd do in your position anyway.
 

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It's a friendzone invite. Bring another woman with you to this event. Otherwise, you'll just be her potential new orbiter.
 

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Women who actually like you won't confuse you. Could it be a filtering test? Sure, but unless she's super nova hot there's no need for the filter. Even then, all that should tell you is that she's probably too wrapped up in attention whoring to give you the time of day.
 

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Just an update:
Wow been almost a month since she gave me her number.

I sent her 1 text 2 weeks later... a ''hey'' no come back.

1 week later, last minute:
Than I invited her to some party... said she couldnt cause already with friends

Her coworker talked about her BF.

It's likely a ''lets be friend'' and its cool.... we need female friends sometimes to improve Social Value.

Maybe i'll invite her on a double date with my current girl
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your incorrect usage of "than" messed with my reading of this post. In every instance here it should be "then". That's a big difference.

Anyways, either she said it because she put you in the friendzone or she was hinting at wanting to cheat on him with you. How did she say she has a boyfriend? How it's said is important to note.
 

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She be plate hunting.
 

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Ordinarily I'd say that she's looking to upgrade, but since she's an alien, that wouldn't make sense since she would be a short-termer. Of course, she could be looking for a green card (what country?)

However, something doesn't sound right. Exchange students are high-schoolers, and it sounds highly unlikely that a boyfriend woul be coming along for the ride. Perhaps she was a guest worker, and somehow she got the exact terminology wrong? I could see a boyfriend-girlfriend pair of folks getting accepted as guest workers at the same location.

But she could be lying about all of this. I suppose you could pursue to bust a nut, but she sounds low class.
 

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It's likely a ''lets be friend'' and its cool.... we need female friends sometimes to improve Social Value.

Maybe i'll invite her on a double date with my current girl
I see - so she can tell your girl that you had asked for her phone number ...
 
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