girl's friends are too important

[Arizona iced tea]

my girlfriend of 6 months now and i just got in a big fight b/c she says i dont get along with her friends well enough... this doesnt seem like a big deal to me but she likes her friends too much and she wants to hang out with me and them at the same time. we were about to break up the other day but decided we wanted to try a little longer b/c we both have strong feelings for each other (but she still cares about her friends more than me). her friends hate me and i dont like them b/c of that.

anyway, i know this is pretty vague, but what should i do? as much as i love her it wouldnt kill me to be single again, but i just see so much potential for us if her friends werent in the way. i want to try and fix it before i pull the plug...

thanks

 

[blackbelt2k]

have you done anything to cause them to hate you? Or they just hate the fact that they may be single and your girl isn't. Think about why they might hate you, and if its for some lame reason, then I think your gf just took the ball in her court and gave you a choice. If this is the case, then you need to present her with a choice, keep her love life and social life separate, or lose you because her friends don't like her being happy.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Her friends are not your friends, and they never will be.

They hate you and they will no matter what you do. This is because you are seen as a threat to them, because you make their friend less available. You are the enemy. You take her away from them. They hate you for that.

They would be happier if you 2 broke up.

Understand that her friends will never be your friends. My advice is to stay away from them as much as possible. Ever walk in the room and you see your girl talking to her friends, and you can just tell by the awkward look on everyones face that they just got done talking about something personal? How not good you are in bed, how not hung you are, etc.

If this girl is constantly needing to know what is going on with her friends, constantly absorbing the myspace and facebook profiles of her friends in attempt to keep up with every single second, you may want to DTB.

However, try telling her that you feel she values her friends way ahead of your relationship and that concerns you. Retaliate by hanging out with your friends as much as possible until she stops what sounds like constant texting them while you are together, myspace/facebook 3+ times daily just to chit chat, constant AIM conversations with them, and basically just living in an immature world. Her having friends is one thing, but if its as bad as I assume, that could weigh down the relationship.

 

[true romance]

be friend with her friend. Unless her friends have some major flaw; depression, drug..etc

you should be DJ everyone, her family, her friends..blend in. You should have private time with your GF but also do some common activities with her entourage.

We said here Girls come and go. Friends stay for ever..she will use the same principal..



Use your charm...

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

be friend with her friend. Unless her friends have some major flaw; depression, drug..etc

you should be DJ everyone, her family, her friends..blend in. You should have private time with your GF but also do some common activities with her entourage.

We said here Girls come and go. Friends stay for ever..she will use the same principal..



Use your charm...

You could kind of "fake it til you make it" by acting so nice to all her friends etc, but really what is the point? They will see you as a threat no matter what, and even though it may be a plus to the girl if you get along with her friends, all girls have this strange sense of satisfaction when they meet a guy and say "oooo he is so bad I could never let my mom meet him" or "ooo hes ARAB! like a terrorist omg! my mom would hate him! hes PERFECT!"

Be nice to the friends, sure, but I dont think you can always be their friends because they will always view you as what gets in the way between them and their friend.

 

[Arizona iced tea]

i never did anything to them except take my gf away from them from time to time... and that is exactly what the problem is.

but after talking to her today it is evident that she unknowingly making the decision up to her friends and now that they have the power they are doing everything they can to kill our relationship. i brought this to her attention and she got even more confused about what to do.

my plan is to just give it my all and show her im going to do what it takes to make it work b/c i care about her that much, and i assume her friends wont be that good of friends when it comes down to it so she will see what is right for her... and if that doesnt work, then **** her im leaving. i have college in 2 months

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Just watch... Her girlfriends are gonna try to hook her up with someone else. Say your bad and blah blah blah.

 

[decades]

u r only 18. unless you think this is the only woman who will ever see your pee pee, I would use this opportunity to cut ties and start living the carefree life.

 

[DonGorgon]

young females tend to have week minds hence why they need a "think group" or "collective" to make decisions... They band together an appoint and ugly or fat one as the leader/gate keeper...

If you are good looking enough or have enough game to get in generally the whole click will want F you.. They will only let members mess with dude they all want.

 

[Arizona iced tea]

her friends arent hot enough to attract any guy so im not worried about them having a guy for her to hook up with. that isnt an issue. but seeing how they cant have boyfriends they dont want the one attractive friend of theirs (my gf) to have one either. i dont plan to game them to make them like me.

and i probably will break up with her over this issue eventually, i just want it to be good while it can be. but i just know these friends will screw her over eventually and she will have no one. and it wouldnt be better with any other guy... it is just a problem that she will have to solve sooner or later or she will never have a successful relationship.

 

[Rhoto]

Dude, I can read how emotionally stressed you are.

Let me ask you this:

Why are you in this relationship? What is in it for you?

This should be answered while disregarding replaceable things like: Sex, love, companionship, and such.

99.99999999999% of relationships that begin under 18, fail. EPIC FAILURE. And you run the risk of knockin her up.





Break up with her today, summer is running out........

 

[Arizona iced tea]

Dude, I can read how emotionally stressed you are.

Let me ask you this:

Why are you in this relationship? What is in it for you?

This should be answered while disregarding replaceable things like: Sex, love, companionship, and such.

99.99999999999% of relationships that begin under 18, fail. EPIC FAILURE. And you run the risk of knockin her up.





Break up with her today, summer is running out........

that is so true. but either way im going to give it a few days, take no ****, and make a decision.

thanks