"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girls Freeze Up Around "Hot" Guys

kody_starr

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I'm gonna rant for a second. And I also put "hot" in quotation marks since I gained about 15 lbs. recently, so I'm less "hot" than I used to be, lol.

Nonetheless, I've seen this pattern so often, there's no mistaking it. That is, the pretty young thing is totally herself, doesn't worry about the impression she makes around the average guy... The average guy has a protruding gut, or doesn't brush his teeth, or is an obvious pothead. She is bubbly, vivacious, totally "in the now" so to speak.

Around me, she freezes up. She is sad. Her head is down. If she speaks to me, it's a short snippet of a sentence. She is staring over her shoulder with uncertainty, and worry in her eyes.

Then she returns speaking to the other guy. Big smile, all the tension is gone from her shoulders and neck.

Then I speak and she is worried again.

I get frustrated at her blockage. i try it again. Same sh#t. Over and over again. I tease myself to appear more human and vulnerable. She still freezes. I compliment her. She freezes. I'm tired of this sh@t!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't think your being "hot" is the problem. Girls aren't worried around guys they are attracted to. They might be nervous....not worried.
 

kody_starr

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worried in the sense of getting their hopes up in fear of having them dashed, in that sense.
 

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it kinda just sounds like the hypothetical other guy was out gaming you.
 

kody_starr

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These other guys weren't even gaming. They were just chodes the girls had known for a long time and felt comfortable talking to.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The curse of being tooo 'Hot' !!!

Hey you are in a better position than most guys. :rock:
 

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Some girls get nervous and giddy around "hot" guys, never worried. For the most part though, they are just extremely flirty. I'm not hot like that but I have 2 friends that are and that is how things always go. For reference, one of them looks like Sean Cassidy ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFBkCNd5DnA&feature=related ) except he's bald.


It doesn't sounds like you're problem is that you're too hot. You're post makes you come off like you are seeking validation.
 

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I know what you mean bro. Girls get real nervous, don't say anything and just stand there when you got your full game on. Most of the girls that freeze up are girl AFCs. They can be themselves around her friends or guys she's not interested in, but when she likes you she don't know what to do and stand there like a frozen popsicle.

My experience with these types of girls were frustrating and very BORING. So if you wanna just get some cuddy, then you can probably get some from this chick because she's very interested in you. But if you want a cool honey who you can have fun TOGETHER, then i'd say next her.
 
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