That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Are you serious? That is ridiculous. It's not a sign of disrespect or disinterest. If she met him just once and forgot his name, that's normal! People have their own lives and sh!t to deal with, it's very easy to forget the name of somebody you talked to ONCE and briefly. I forget names all the time, it has nothing to do with me not being interested in the girl or not wanting to hook up with her, but rather with the fact that I've got too much on my plate at the moment.
THANK YOU! What is it with guys wearing their egos on their sleeve??!!! Do you realize that a woman forgetting your name could be used as a HUGE opening for a neg hit or C/F routine?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not necessarily wearing the ego on my sleeve.
I see, but like MindOverMatter said, it's normal. My guess is that 7 out of 10 people you meet genually have a problem remembering names. Yes, it could be used as a disqualifyer but one can easily end up missing out on meeting someone interesting for a common mistake.
I agree with that - especially if it's over drinks, which impairs your memory a good deal. I find it easier to match faces rather than names, which most others do. I just have to dig deep to find disqualifiers sometimes.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.