So I'm in college, and I've noticed that when I ask a girl who gave me her number to go out to the park or something, they'd always rather meet at a party...That's cool and all but during the summer when you're away from school its WACK. Just my thoughts..
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Girls Dont Want to Go On Dates Anymore
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
never ever ever ever call them 'dates' to girls under 27 or so. You're 'hanging out' or 'Getting together' the word 'Date' to them is a boring, high pressure thing they can't handle unless they are already super into you.
Iceberg
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Why take college girls out on real dates? It's like giving a gold watch to a 5 year old. They're too young to appreciate it.
nismo-4
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I wouldn't even call it a date to a 57 year old! I won't even ask a girl to hang out, cuz they translate it as date. But you're right about the fact that they need to be super into you.yuppaz said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Maxtro
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So then what do you do with college girls?
I'm getting shit in college and I have no idea what else to do.
I'm getting shit in college and I have no idea what else to do.
For me it's pretty specific because I go to college in a city and everyone lives close to eachother, but...
You go to one party, you chill with people there, you continue on going to parties and ****, you just lay down some "game" or whatever you want to call it on girls at these different events, and then at some point leave together. Usually the "leaving together" thing happens after the party has moved to a club/bar. Also, of course, you can get the number at any point along the way (usually I leave that 'til I've been at a gathering featuring this girl twice or three times) and progress from there.
Others will have more interesting techniques I'm sure, but I basically go to all parties, all potlucks, all nights out and you start seeing familiar overlaps of people between the different friend groups. So you don't even bother with the phone number or the date or any of the bull****. Loose connections, lots of loose connections all the time.
Also note that this is perfect because it's just an extension of my social life. AND note that you have insta-social proof because you hang out with so many people that you have respect with all kinds of groups. Sweet.
And again, note that unfortunately my "model" of doing things isn't applicable to all college people.
You go to one party, you chill with people there, you continue on going to parties and ****, you just lay down some "game" or whatever you want to call it on girls at these different events, and then at some point leave together. Usually the "leaving together" thing happens after the party has moved to a club/bar. Also, of course, you can get the number at any point along the way (usually I leave that 'til I've been at a gathering featuring this girl twice or three times) and progress from there.
Others will have more interesting techniques I'm sure, but I basically go to all parties, all potlucks, all nights out and you start seeing familiar overlaps of people between the different friend groups. So you don't even bother with the phone number or the date or any of the bull****. Loose connections, lots of loose connections all the time.
Also note that this is perfect because it's just an extension of my social life. AND note that you have insta-social proof because you hang out with so many people that you have respect with all kinds of groups. Sweet.
And again, note that unfortunately my "model" of doing things isn't applicable to all college people.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Hmm that's a very different approach. Though it seems like it works.
So how do you get into that scene? I've been going to a big uni in SoCal and I haven't been to a single party or social event. I just don't know the right people.
So how do you get into that scene? I've been going to a big uni in SoCal and I haven't been to a single party or social event. I just don't know the right people.
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Sometimes you just gotta go alone. As scary as that may sound, just do it! Find flyers for these events and just go.Maxtro said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I would if I knew about them. I've gone to some pretty crazy places by myself. Going to a house party is no sweat.nismo-4 said:
I just need to find out where they are.
CuriousGirl
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Yeah they do, they're either shy/nervous or they're not into you that much.