"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls don't like a$$holes?

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I was on SA and there was a girl. I wasn't actually going to meet her, but had her send me a picture. She had short hair in the pic as opposed to her profile.

I said "you have short hair? I don't like it."

To which she replied...

"I can see why you have to pay girls to fvck you. You're an a$$. Bye."

So I guess being an a$$ is a bad thing. Some said it was good? Is there a good and bad way to be an a$$? What would be the opposite, preferable, personality?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't be an ******* via text.. it's trolling and comes off as disgusting to other people.. say same thing irl while grinning and she'll like it: negging.
 
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Yea you trolling, something is off about you dude. Is it possible that you are autistic? or have mild Aspergers? I am not making fun out of you or insulting you, not trying to diagnosis you
I took a test for schizophrenia and Asperger's in November. Got the results 9 days ago.

No schizophrenia. No Asperger's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I can see why you have to pay girls to fvck you. You're an a$$. Bye."
You go around telling people that you pay girls to fvck you? I can see you saying it here, but you're telling people in your life this also?
I wouldn't do that.
And why would you insult a girl's appearance? If you want to use a neg, that's not the way it's done. You don't just say "I don't like your hair". That's rude and I'm sure she found it hurtful.
 
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You go around telling people that you pay girls to fvck you? I can see you saying it here, but you're telling people in your life this also?
I wouldn't do that.
And why would you insult a girl's appearance? If you want to use a neg, that's not the way it's done. You don't just say "I don't like your hair". That's rude and I'm sure she found it hurtful.
It was on Seeking Arrangement. That's how she knew.

Actually, I messaged her back like an hour later and said "hey sorry I had a rough day okay?" and she said it's cool.


20 minutes later she's sending me her dirtiest pics and telling me her gangbang fantasies.
 

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Yea you trolling, something is off about you dude. Is it possible that you are autistic? or have mild Aspergers? I am not making fun out of you or insulting you, not trying to diagnosis you
still girl shouldnt go full retard mode just because he said he doesnt like her new haircut


but I agree about Richard. his threads ale like from different dimension lol
 

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You can't judge an entire situation based on one random woman's reaction lol.

I've done and said identical things to different women and got different responses from each.
 

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Someone needs to learn to have some CLASS. Don't put people down.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Women don't like obnoxious cvnts with loud negative opinions.
They like men who don't care about THEIR opinions.

Both can be considered as asholes but a big difference.

Having too many outspoken negative opinions is like cryptonite to a woman.
 

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Girls love the right kind of asshøle.

There are two general kinds of asshøles: caring and uncaring

A caring asshøle is out of spite, including insults.

An uncaring asshøle simply cares only about himself.

You always want to be uncaring.
 
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Girls love the right kind of asshøle.

There are two general kinds of asshøles: caring and uncaring

A caring asshøle is out of spite, including insults.

An uncaring asshøle simply cares only about himself.

You always want to be uncaring.
So the caring a$$hole is just faking it temporarily.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No. Psychiatrist.
If you don't mind....

Was that expensive?
Did you go of your own accord?
Do you think it was a waste of time or worth
it?
did you know the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist before hand?

cheers man
 
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If you don't mind....

Was that expensive?
Did you go of your own accord?
Do you think it was a waste of time or worth
it?
did you know the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist before hand?

cheers man
I do mind.

I also took an IQ test, and got a score that's in the upper 90's percentile. However, I'm not going to say what the score is because I disagree with it. I think it is too low because there was no math on this particular IQ test.
 
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I do mind.

I also took an IQ test, and got a score that's in the upper 90's percentile. However, I'm not going to say what the score is because I disagree with it. I think it is too low because there was no math on this particular IQ test.
there are couple kinds of wisdom. you might have mathematical intelligence what about emotional/social intelligence.
 
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there are couple kinds of wisdom. you might have mathematical intelligence what about emotional/social intelligence.
I get done what I need to get done. Cooperation is not always the goal. I require very few other people in a direct sense. 99% of the population is not worth having around in any way. They have little long-term to offer in my life, and are inherently selfish just like I am. Nobody has my best interest in mind other than me.

I cooperate and communicate with those who I need to very easily.
 

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I get done what I need to get done. Cooperation is not always the goal. I require very few other people in a direct sense. 99% of the population is not worth having around in any way. They have little long-term to offer in my life, and are inherently selfish just like I am. Nobody has my best interest in mind other than me.

I cooperate and communicate with those who I need to very easily.
Ok Richard. If you don't like the general population, or you're to smart to communicate with average people, and don't want to work on your deficits, what's the obsession with finding a girl?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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