girls dont call back

[evrlast985]

I havent had much problems getting numbers from girls, but once I make the first call I've been on a losing streak for the last few, where they dont call back.

Up until now I thought I was pretty confident with girls but now I realize that I am far from it. I am enrolling myself in DJ bootcamp, I want to make it my goal to make this summer the most women populated.

I usually get one number a month and for the last 2 and a half months, these numbers dont call back. I meet these women in bars, when I'm at work, houseparties, basically all over.

But, even though I did get their numbers, why do you guys think there is no call back after I leave them a message?

I call em usually day and a half to two days later,,........should I call back again?

Thanks in advance..

 

[fukuy]

ya, always give them the doubt of sth wrong with their answering machine.
You call them at least 1 and at most twice. No more no less.

 

[theinstrumentalist]

I never leave a message on the first call, and sometimes leave a brief message if I can't get a hold of her on the second. I never call more than twice. When I do leave a message, like you, I rarely get a call back. The ladies that I do get dates with are usually the ones that answer the first time around.

As to why they don't call back, that could be anything. They don't care, they're busy, didn't get the message, etc, etc.

Does anyone think that leaving a message is a bad thing?

 

[Zoso]

I don't leave messages.

When you leave a message, they may or may not get it. You don't know. But you do know that you did leave a message and there's a good chance they got it. This leaves the ball in her court, as far as you're concerned. Now it's up to her to call you back, but if she didn't get the message then that won't happen. If you call back to find out and try again, and she did get the message and just didn't want to call, it makes you look weak because you both know that she was supposed to call you but didn't.

 

[AFC12345]

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[squirrels]

First time I call, if I get the machine, I basically say, "I'll call back another time." I figure I caught them at a bad time, so I'm letting them know that I made the call, I'm interested (haven't forgotten her already), gives her my number if she has caller ID (so she KNOWS it's me calling next time), and lets her know to be expecting me to call back.

Second time I call, if I get the machine, THEN I tell HER to call ME back...maybe even suggest a time we can get together so she can check her schedule and figure everything out before we talk again. If she doesn't return the call, then I figure she's not interested. Or if I got a real high IL at first or the girl's really hot, I'll give it a little while longer and call one last time. But after two calls, if she REALLY wants to spend time with me, it's only proper that she returns the call in SOME fashion. If she doesn't, even if she's interested, she doesn't deserve my time.

If a girl ever answers and says "can I call you back?" the best thing to do is just tell her "no, I'll call you back around xx:xx." Half the time, a call-back promise from a girl is legit and half the time it's BS.

That's not set in stone, a lot of times it depends on the girl, the IL, and the circumstances. But if after the third call you don't get a call-back, then she's not interested.

 

[theinstrumentalist]

First time I call, if I get the machine, I basically say, "I'll call back another time." I figure I caught them at a bad time, so I'm letting them know that I made the call, I'm interested (haven't forgotten her already), gives her my number if she has caller ID (so she KNOWS it's me calling next time), and lets her know to be expecting me to call back.

Thats a good point, curteous and letting it be known that it's YOU that will be calling back some other time. Although I do disagree with the third call, but that's just a matter of preference.
Thanks for the insight, squirrels.

 

[SDBmania]

I just made my second call. The first time I called was a few months ago, was when I asked her out and got her number(She was in one of my classes). Then when I saw her again she said she didn't call me back because she wanted to tell me in person that she was going through a tuff part with her then current boyfriend. It sounded like it was ending. So, fine. I thought I'd next her, but then changed my mind. She had seemed interested and she did accept my offer to go out, so I felt conflicted. So, I called her on Monday and left a message in her voice mail. I figure I'll wait and see if she calls me back this time. Now that the semester is over, I won't see her in class anymore. She is moving, not sure when, so that could be why she has not called me back yet. Plus, she's been pretty busy these last few weeks. I think I'll call one more time this weekend and then forget it. It's hard to say what to do and this is the first number I have ever gotten. So, I'll give her the benifet of the doubt. But, you must remember that you don't want to call too much. Like it has been said, anymore then 3 is too much. You don't want to be like that guy from "Swingers."

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by dementia
i never leave messages. Ill hang up after 3-4 rings until i get her.

If they ask "did u call earlier"..... "Nope i was busy doing <insert activity here> earlier... i wasnt evne thinking about u"

All cellphones have caller ID. If you called her, then you call her again and the same number shows up, she'll know. Why are you afraid to admit you called her? It's a phonecall. It's not like you called 15 times during the day. I'll call girls on my way back from the gym or out to the store.

Even if you block caller ID, you'll still come up as "no number" twice and there aren't that many people that do that. I mean, not leaving a message is one thing, but then being like, "oh no, I didn't call you" is just an obvious lie.

 

[jba1234]

One number a month is not even close to being enough. With this rate of numbers gotten it is unlikely to have success. I try to get at least a few numbers each day, sometimes more, sometimes less. For example Monday I went to the mall and scored about 6 numbers. This afternoon I already have a meeting set up with one of those girls for coffee.Once you get the hang of it, it gets easier. By only getting a few numbers per month your chance of getting a live one is almost zero. So instead of focusing on calling a few girls you can focus on calling a whole bunch and have a much better chance of success.